Most people know the schoolyard chant: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." As we mature, we realize this childhood saying isn’t true because words carry tremendous power. The words we use in conversations reveal truths about who we are, what we believe, and our preferences. Because of the power words have, we can use them to shape how people see us and claim a position of authority in conversations.
Words Empower You to Gain Control Over Your Emotions
When asked how you’re doing, do you reflexively say you’re fine? Psychologists warn against constantly suppressing difficult emotions. Instead, they encourage people to name their emotions as accurately as possible. By putting emotions into words, you decrease the power the emotions have over you by making them seem less scary and less taboo. Many people who are facing challenging circumstances say they feel physical relief after talking about the emotions that are overwhelming them with a friend or online psychic.
Words Help Define You and Your World
While verbalizing emotions weakens the hold they have on you, words can strengthen your self-esteem. If you write in a journal, have a weekly chat with a pal, or chat with a telephone psychic, be conscious about the words you use to describe yourself and your behaviors. Avoid saying things like “I’m so stupid” and “I can’t believe I did that.” Instead, you can use words to frame your mistakes in a more positive light by saying phrases like “I made a mistake, but I know what I did wrong and will fix it next time.”
Don’t fall into the habit of using negative words. The more you recite negative phrases, the more intensely you condition your brain to believe that they’re true. If you consistently talk about yourself, other people, and the world in negative terms, you’ll develop a negative outlook that will be challenging to overcome.
Practical Tips for Harnessing the Power of Words
Harness the power of words to give yourself a positive perspective on your life, your friends, and society. One way to do that is to write inspirational phrases on notecards and stick them to your bathroom mirror. Offer to write the positive attributes of a co-worker on notecards in exchange for him or her doing the same thing for you. After receiving the cards, hang them up in a prominent place in your office. Glancing at the words describing your best characteristics will give you a boost if you’re lagging behind on a project.
Use words to convey gratitude. When opening a meeting, thank everyone for taking the time to attend. As you interact with people in the service industry, verbalize your appreciation for their work. By putting into words the gratitude you have in your heart, you’re unleashing the power of words to make a positive impact on others.
By being intentional, you can use words to increase your own happiness and bring joy to others.