I find my own life is so deeply transformed by focusing on giving and love every day. Of course some days are harder than others. We're living within this human experience where egos butt heads but I find when I take the same energy I put out during the holidays and apply it to the Grinches in my day-to-day life that I get a completely different response from those who may have, at first, wanted to be a negative in my life.
One of the many ways in which I use this energy is in a surprise little gift giving. People expect things of you during the holidays but are quite taken aback when they receive a little something from me "just because." These things are never big, a thinking of you card, a baked good I know they love, a compliment of any kind or, more importantly, an act rather than an item, such as an errand for someone overwrought with burdens or stressed with health issues. In other words, those things you would do during the holiday season without a second thought but then shut yourself down from the day after the wrapping paper, punch bowl and silver are packed away.
These little "gifts" make others feel the world they live in is a good place and, oftentimes, those who are normally cranky and grumpy usually can't help but change their frown into a smile. This doesn't only make the world a better place for them. It does for me too. Maybe this is a little selfish when you really think about it but, hey, any day I can feel my heart grow 10 sizes when feeling the love that comes with the giving, I start to wonder, "Before this loving gesture, just who really was the Grinch?"
Bring on the holidays but don't put season after the word holiday. Let's make it year round - for all our sakes!