Grieving doesn't come with a time limit, and each person's experience with grief and loss is a personal journey. However, there comes a point when grieving has gone on too long. Continue reading to learn more about grieving and how you can recover.
Is Grieving Acceptable?
Grieving is a normal human reaction to loss, whether you've lost a spouse, a friend, a pet, or a job. In fact, about half of people who lose a partner show symptoms of major depression for up to two months after the loss. While it's normal to be sad about the situation even years later, it can damage your health if you let the depression consume you.
Signs You've Been Grieving Too Long
There's no set period for how long grieving should last. However, Ben Brewer, a psychotherapist in Denver who specializes in grief says, “If any of the symptoms are severe or last longer than two months, particularly if they involve suicidal thoughts or more intense hallucinations, you should seek help or emergency services immediately."
Other signs include:
- Your friends and family constantly hint it's time to move on.
- Your grieving interferes with daily activities.
- You haven't felt better since the loss.
- You have suicidal thoughts.
Where do People Get Stuck?
Grieving comes in five stages:
- Denial and Isolation: Hiding from the facts or convincing yourself it's not true while isolating yourself from others.
- Anger: Intense emotions aimed at others, objects, or the situation.
- Bargaining: Saying or thinking things like, "If we only had a different doctor..."
- Depression: Intense sadness.
- Acceptance: Understanding the situation and becoming calm.
These stages are not linear, which means you may accept the situation only to fall back into a depression later. When grieving, most people are stuck in a depressive state, which, when it goes on too long, can affect daily life and cause serious medical issues.
Tips to Recovering
Losing something--particularly a loved one--doesn't mean you have to lose yourself, too. Consider these ways you can recover:
1. Consult with a Psychic
A live psychic can help in nearly all walks of life. You might consult a career psychic if you're grieving the loss of a job. When you've lost a loved one, a psychic can help you find closure. Sometimes a psychic can simply provide the emotional support and one-on-one advice to help you cope.
2. Spend Time with Others
Social support can help people recover from depression. As you spend time with your family and friends, you'll curb your sense of isolation, stay connected and focused, and discover the support you need to find solutions.
3. Face Your Grief Head-On
One reason many people don't recover quickly from a loss is because they're still in denial. Facing the situation can help you accept it as reality. Don't be afraid to shuffle through your memories, look back through scrapbooks, or even talk to your loved one on the other side through a psychic medium.
Grief is normal, but when it interferes with daily activities and sends you into a depression, it's time to get help.