Knowing another person is motivated to talk to us as much as a strictly online relationship takes is very humbling. When we find someone that we can talk to about anything, it's just as soul connecting as physically being with them in our daily lives. We appreciate being heard and there's deep value in getting to know them.
But, Can It Last?
First what is driving each person? What's the incentive? Love is very real and can be fully felt and appreciated in online relationships. Both parties need to be honest about their thinking. Once you sense and hear that the other person is sincerely on the same level as you are let that drive your intentions. This will lead to being honest about how you feel for each other.
The Fear Factor
Relationships have responsibilities and if you're new to digital only connections here are a few things to take into consideration.
1 - Things can kick off fast, that's not a bad thing. Be realistic about how much time you can consistently give.
2 - At some point communication can slow down just due to life, think ahead about your day and let your person know what’s up. Sometimes when communication slows down the other person gets worried your interest may be waning. We don't want to throw someone for a loop if there's no reason to. For example, if you have dinner with a client from work, a night out with the girls, or are even just feeling sick and need to go to bed early during a time you would usually be chatting with your lover, just tell them in advance like you would if it was someone you lived with or were physically dating. Which leads to…
3 - Be prepared to learn to communicate well. Seriously, your attitude will come through in how frequent you talk and what you talk about. Mutual interests are great but be ready to encourage new adventures. Help build your person up in their daily life.
4 - Now that I mention it, talk about your day and activities. Online relationships have depth thanks to those very details. These relationships have so much to look forward to, once it has grown and there's a depth with your person you can get ready to really share.
5 - Face to face video is a genuine avenue to really bring the pleasure into knowing your person of interest. Just like in real life relationships, this is more than entertainment. This is where souls become one. Use videos and pictures. Keep it very, very real. You don’t always have to have on full make up and a cocktail dress before you turn on your phone or web camera. Sometimes seeing the “real” you can help them appreciate you even more.
Highs and Lows
Always keep that in mind that you are on a mutual path and everyone has a rough day from time to time. Also, there are some things that can come into these relationships that can throw things way off track really quick. Physically being lonely can affect your mood. The other person's real-life connections can too, if your sibling is in the hospital or your best friend just got dumped and needs a shoulder to cry on, you may be distracted and not be there for your digital partner. Be honest here.
Ghosting and Catfishing
In the beginning people's needs and wants come out fairly quickly in what they expect from you. Healthy starts are sharing our ideas and things we love. When meeting someone new, they may want to pique your interest by sending false images because they have actually constructed a false identity. In this situation it's hard to see past the lie, the other person has so much fear in who they really are and needed to be seen as someone else. This is where candor and trying to see the connection you have as a doorway for them to deal with their concerns in who they are. Being in this situation isn't easy for anyone and it's hurtful for both people. It is important to take it slow and be consistent. Since you are both in this it also shouldn't offend the other person if you bring this up as a concern. Remember, if you are asked to help financially it should be okay to say no.
Online relationships can throw us into needing clarity and understanding. If you are seeking advice or guidance, connect with your favorite psychic advisor to bring some balance back into your digital connection.