You may see this person almost every day, constantly think about him or her and you know he or she is your one true love. You can just feel it deep down, it’s meant to be. They might not know it yet, but you do… So, what can you do to make them love you back? The honest answer to this question is sad and final. The answer is, “Nothing.”
A person is going to love you to the best of their ability and there is nothing you do can change their capacity to love. Only if they can appreciate themselves and allow for their own growth can they love themselves and appreciate the effort of others. Others are operating from their own understanding and can only give what they have. Your true liberation lies in accepting that you only have control of you.
A Conduit for Good Energy
Efforts toward another person with the expectation of anything in particular will always lead to disappointment. However, making an effort toward another because you are inspired to do so can only be fulfilling. The inevitable bonus of being a giver without expectation is that the Universe will always supply you with the energy or material good to give. You are, in fact, a conduit for the good energy that the Universe is offering all of us.
Choosing one person to receive what you have to offer is a disservice to yourself and all of us who would thoroughly enjoy your energy. None of us can satisfy every single person we encounter. Choosing to give your attention to an individual who has not hidden their lack of interest is self-destructive. Winning anyone over requires compromising things that have nothing to do with your ability to relate. The willingness to compromise yourself also attracts people who want to use you for their self-interests.
Take Care of Yourself
Being taken advantage of is one extreme of outcome of wanting love from someone. The sting of rejection is a less extreme outcome and far more common. Our reliance on others is always a risk. The only person who can make your life beautiful is you. The more you take care of yourself, the more you can offer. The more growth you can experience, the better your contributions will resonate.
So, the real question is… how can you get your love for yourself back?