When we are in between relationships, and we feel empty and alone, we may find ourselves wishing, hoping and praying that our future lover shows up soon, and the more time goes on, we feel like the waiting becomes unbearable, unfair and more out of reach than ever! It stretches out, way ahead and we begin to spend a lot of time and energy on quickening our pace, focusing our energy on that moment in time, and the connection of that particular person, that we tend to hang all of our future happiness on that event and on that person.
Patience is a Virtue
If we make our entire condition of happiness contingent on manifesting that relationship, with that perfect lover, we are putting a LOT of pressure on that event, and on that person. The result may be that the event and the person arrive, perhaps with no particular sense of urgency on their part, and we may be so fed up with the long wait, that we respond with “Where have you been? I’ve been waiting and waiting. What do you have to say for yourself?”.
This is an extreme example, but we can certainly see why this attitude (born of frustration and lonely waiting) can be repellent before we’ve had a chance to express and explore a new connection. Perhaps we have been the person that someone has waited for, dreamed of and hurried the future towards and that is where the music stops, and we may get a reality check.
As a psychic advisor, love is the number one topic we are asked questions about, and the most common tends to be “well, where are they? I am tired of waiting!” similar to the hypothetical situation above. Many factors that go into the recipe for a lasting relationship with a prospect of lifelong loving cannot be forced or hurried.
Discover How to Wait Well
A connection that begins with fireworks may fizzle - none of us can keep up that type of intensity! When we find our best match, it is seldom accompanied by an announcement of, “AH-HA!” but we spend a deliciously uncertain amount of time assessing each other and determining in a thousand subtle, nuanced ways to discover if we are a good fit. When we romanticize a relationship before we have manifested the real possibility of one, we run the risk of chasing it away before it is begun, if we have become frantic with waiting.
Therefore, dear friends, discover how to wait well, with dignity and grace, because you never know when someone is observing you and wondering if you are the one for them… Waiting well includes treating yourself kindly, giving yourself to the type of care that you would expect from a healthy partner in a healthy relationship and enjoy the high standards you want to see in your future relationship. Think deeply about not only what you expect from your future partner, but also think on what you are prepared to offer them to make it an outstanding and delightful partnership.
Change Your Frequency
Remember, like attracts like, but like can also dissolve like; therefore, temper your Self to a vibration you wish to attract in others. Changing your frequency also involves changing old patterns, learning from past mistakes and being in tune with your own needs, and we often stress the importance of meditation in self-awareness. When we take the time to be right with ourselves first, we may find to our great delight, that attracting a really great person into that role is more effortless than we could imagine, back when we were vibrating to a different frequency.
Therefore, think of the wait as time granted to us to prepare ourselves well. It may help us to wait well for love, or for anything worthwhile in life.