You know you shouldn't do it, but it's hard not to look. Just one time won't hurt, right? When checking up on an old flame's social media account borders on stalking, one more time is too many times. Breaking the habit is hard, but it's the best thing you can do for your sanity.
Here are five tips for resisting that urge to follow up on your ex through social media.
Unfriend or Unfollow Him
This may sound harsh, but sometimes going cold turkey is the best way to put an unhealthy practice to bed. It may be necessary to unfriend anyone close to your ex as well. It's not because you don't want to be friends with any of these people; it’s because seeing them happy and together makes you feel bad.
Immerse Yourself in Something Peaceful
Distracting yourself by participating in something that brings peace is healing and helps break the urge to peek. For some, peace may come through meditation; for others, it may come from a long walk in nature. Sometimes speaking to an unbiased third party is the best medicine. Consider taking some time to phone a psychic to discuss a purposeful path. Understanding your choices can motivate you to break a troubling habit.
Have an Accountability Buddy
Make a promise to a friend that you will refrain from following up on your ex. Then ask that friend to hold you accountable for your promise. Have that friend on speed-dial so you can call them when you feel weak. Choose someone who will be easy to reach in a time of need.
If your life is full of fun, you won't have time to stalk your ex through cyberspace. So use your time constructively for healing and enjoyment. You don't want to run away from the problem; instead, you want to seek alternatives that satisfy the desire to look. One approach is to contact an online psychic for constructive ways to stay busy and build an enjoyable life.
Find a New Passion
Passions come in many shapes and sizes. Maybe you've always wanted to learn to paint. Or maybe you've always wanted to travel. Now is a great time to get started on a new passion. When you do something that's exciting for you, tendencies to check on an ex diminish. Not only will you be less likely to take part in the unhealthy practice of cyber-checking, but you will grow as a person and have new stories to tell. It’s a great way to look towards the future instead of dwelling on the past.
Breakups are hard and resisting the urge to know what's going on in the life of someone who has been a huge part of your past is tough. So, just remember to learn from earlier experiences, but continue to look forward. You can’t move on with your life until you can resist the urge to check on your past.