Being an empath can be incredibly delightful and occasionally frightening, but mostly wonderful. We get to really feel what others are going through and help based on what we feel. The difficulty, is in separating our feelings from others and being able to let go of what doesn't belong to us. Learning to feel it long enough to understand it, then letting it all go is one of the hardest things we will ever have to do, and that is on a regular day.
Add in children, especially your own, and try to follow the rules. It hardly ever works. Why? Because as parents, we want to take away all their aches and pains. We want them to feel better and we would gladly take it if it meant they didn't have to go through it. Problem is, they do go through it and we do have to sit back and watch and it hurts. A lot.
Here are my top 4 tips to parenting as an empath:
1)This is part of their journey as well as yours. No matter how hard you try you can't take it from them. Release the guilt associated with that.
2)Take a few moments to allow yourself to relax and really understand that you don't have to feel it for them. You being beside them with a bucket is not going to help them at all, and they may feel guilt for making you feel that way.
3)Take very good care of you. If you are feeling overwhelmed, ask a partner, friend or family member to help. Mostly, they will be willing to help.
4)If you find yourself feeling all their symptoms, find a time and place where you can be quiet and release the feelings that don't belong to you. The Universe will be more than happy to help you.
In all cases, we cannot help others if our bucket is empty. Take time to really focus on what is for you and what belongs to others. Yes, it is a gift and we are so grateful, but learning self-care is very important for the healers and the helpers. Allow yourself the opportunity to give to yourself like you would to anyone else!