Being with a person of another ethnicity can open your eyes to other cultures and life experiences. When you work together, you can strengthen your bond and help each other move past prejudice. The first step to being an ally to your partner is by educating yourself.
Learning to Be Supportive in Your Relationship
Being anti-racist means that you are devoted to curtailing racist attitudes, beliefs, and actions within yourself and the world around you. Beyond passively being accepting of other races, you need to actively fight for equality and respect. It's your responsibility to learn challenges or discrimination your partner experiences and show your support.
For instance, if you have a relative who holds racial prejudices, one way you could help is to sit down and have an honest conversation with this person. During this discussion, challenge their racist thoughts and beliefs. Likewise, when you see racist actions taking place in your everyday life, speaking up is a way to show your partner support. Even if you do not say, think, or do racists things yourself, allowing it to happen in front of you is still a part of the problem.
Here are some actions you can take to fight back against racism:
- Speak up when you notice racism.
- Educate yourself about the challenges other races' experience.
- Share your knowledge about racial relations with others.
- Embrace people from other backgrounds and cultures.
- Become aware of your own biases.
- Donate to charities that support minorities.
Avoiding Assumptions About Race
When dating someone of a different race, it's important to get to know who they really are. Rather than making assumptions about them based on their ethnicity, show them that you are curious about their interests, background, and other defining characteristics. If you assume your partner acts or thinks a certain way based on their demographics, this can be hurtful and unproductive for your relationship.
How to Examine Your Own Biases
Even if you feel that you are an understanding and accepting person, it's possible that you have unconscious biases about other ethnicities. Living in a society that discriminates against people of color has led to internalized racism and discrimination in many people. Although this is an unfortunate reality, you have the agency to do something about it. Follow these steps to examine your own biases:
- Notice when you make assumptions based on race, gender, socioeconomic status, or other demographics.
- Reflect on why you have these initial thoughts.
- Think of ways to challenge these thoughts and determine that they are untrue.
- Realize that biased thinking can lead to biased actions. Think before you speak or act.
Navigating an interracial relationship may come with challenges, but it is worth it to be with the one you love. Learn more about your love life through a love tarot reading or by talking to a love psychic.