It is very easy to romanticize a lifestyle that is built on a certain kind of courage, strength and street smarts this kind of life demands. The masculinity they represent can be intoxicating. Often these men can be charming, polite, attractive and dangerous to know.
The very things that make these men so appealing can make them equally problematic. When you become involved with a man whose life is shrouded in secrecy and behavior outside the norms of society, risk is omnipresent.
Bad Boys, Bad Boys… Whatcha Gonna Do?
There are all kinds of bad boys. There are bad boys who lead lucrative lives, and then there are bad boys who are, well just bad. These kinds of men can be excellent talkers. They can charm you to the point where common sense goes out of the proverbial window. You may need to watch your bank account with a man who convinces you that you are the only as you subsidize his life style, and potential “side” women.
Rationalize the Irrational
Rationalization can turn the impossible into the most likely. Even the self-aware make excuses for the errant behavior of their loves. He came from a broken home, or he is just that way, are just a few reasons given for why. One common excuse is that crime is everywhere, and he is just doing what is necessary. It is just the way the world is. If not him, someone else is going to make that drug deal. These are just a few ways to rationalize the irrational.
Little Boy Gone Wrong
Either products of violent homes, poverty, emotional problems, even mental health issues, the forces that transform little boys into “Bad Boys” is complex. Love alone cannot undone what time, environment and other factors have formed.
There are those instances where bad boys can become responsible law-abiding men. However, this is a long and often difficult path with ups and considerable downs. It demands hard work, assistance and patience if you want to even attempt to take on what is needed to turn a bad boy into a good man.