Several months into the relationship, we might feel like we've found the perfect person for us. They make us feel all the things we've hoped for. Several years into the relationship, we start noticing the ways they are not fulfilling our needs. Then, it seems like an endless list of all they are doing wrong.
We don't recognize all the ways we have stopped doing the things that fill us up. We just know we have lost that loving feeling and THEY better start filling it!
Love - What It Is Not
Now we feel even worse.
See, we have shifted from giving love and receiving love to an energetic taking. It is not our fault. We do need to be filled back up with love in its many forms, but we are looking in the wrong place. It is not our fault. We have become out of balance, and now we feel we need them to give us nurturing so we can compensate for the imbalance within us. They resist because perhaps they are also out of balance and don't have it to give. We only truly give from surplus. We feel it, and they feel it. So, what do we do about it?
Love - What It Is
It is that easy. It may take practice to feel it, but it works. The fastest way to see a change in others is to change how we feel about ourselves. We can be self-sourcing. Then our outside world can reflect our love, respect, honor, and beauty.