On-again, off-again relationships can feel exhilarating, but they can also cause a lot of pain. Some worthwhile relationships do take more time to develop, but other relationships aren't worth the trouble they bring. Here are some questions to ask yourself to decide if your relationship can work in the long run, or if it's just a waste of your time.
Is it Still Fun?
If spending time with your on-again, off-again partner is starting to feel like a chore, the struggle likely isn't worth it in the end. Of course, you can't expect your partner to act perfectly all the time, but you need to be able to count on this person. No longer having any fun spending time with your partner? That's a surefire sign it isn't going to work out in the long run.
Do You Live for the Drama?
Some people grow addicted to the drama of on-again, off-again relationships. If you're just sticking with it for the high getting back together gives you, this isn't a healthy relationship. Getting a love tarot card reading can help you pinpoint the reasons you stay in or return to your relationship. And if the reason isn't love, it's time to reconsider things.
Does it Only Work for One?
Are you only seeing your partner on their terms? You can't constantly arrange your life based on someone else's. Sure, it may feel great to be back on good terms. In the long run, only going on one person's terms will make the other feel undervalued. If you're not getting what you want out of your relationship as it stands today (not how it might be in a month or a year), you're wasting your time on something that isn't working.
Has Anything Changed?
Many people go back to these types of relationships with the promise of change. Has anything changed this time, or is it an illusion? Having a chat with a psychic online can help you figure this out. When your partner keeps going back to the same ways, you should take it as a sign that the relationship won't work for the long haul. If you're dissatisfied now, you'll most likely keep feeling this way.
Are You Being Manipulated?
Take a moment to assess what makes you stay or return to this relationship. If you love the person and want to be with them, that's one thing. If they're getting you to stay through guilt, the relationship isn't worth it. No one else's happiness is your responsibility.
Is This the Easy Choice?
You shouldn't stay with someone just because it's the easiest thing to do. You may find yourself doubting that you can find love, so you may choose to fall back on someone you do have, but that will only stop you from finding love in all its real forms.
It's important to figure out if your on-again, off-again relationship is just a waste of your time, or if it can work in the long run. Consider carefully the reasons why this relationship keeps drawing you in.