You know your partner is irresistible, but you’ve started to realize you’re not the only one who’s noticed how great he is. Finding out that your significant other is receiving a little extra attention online is never fun, but it isn’t always cause for major concern. Learn what to do when you discover flirting and find out how concerned you should be.
Get a Handle on the Situation
When you first find out that your guy has been receiving comments, private messages, or even photos online, you might feel angry or sad. As any online psychic could tell you, none of these emotions are unusual. After all, you’re only human. Instead of acting on them or saying something you’ll regret later, though, try to approach the situation calmly.
First, get a handle on the situation and find out what’s really going on. If possible, do some research on your own before bringing up the topic with your partner. If he’s getting public comments on social media, for instance, there’s nothing stopping you from reading them and assessing the situation.
If you have reason to believe your guy is getting private messages from other women or that he’s using an app to flirt online, you’ll need to talk with him directly. No matter how strongly you suspect something, don’t read his messages or browse his social media profiles while he’s logged in. You’ll break his trust, and that could be impossible to repair.
What to Do if It’s One-Sided
When you’re ready to talk it over, find out if it’s one-sided. If he’s getting flirty messages from other women but he’s deleting them without responding or he’s doing his best to diffuse the situation, then he’s doing nothing wrong.
That doesn’t have to be the end of your conversation, though. Thank him for refusing to engage with flirty comments and remind him where you stand. Maybe chatting or exchanging photos with another woman online is a deal breaker for you, and you’ve talked about it before. You can remind him how you feel, but make sure you aren’t accusing him of doing anything nefarious.
How to Deal if He’s Flirting Back
If he’s returning the attention that he receives online, he may not be as forthcoming with details as you’d like. Instead, you may need to look for red flags. If he’s being secretive, if he’s spending a considerable amount of time chatting with other women online, or if he’s talking to others about your relationship, it’s time to have a serious discussion.
He may not believe that what he’s doing is wrong, especially if he’s unhappy in the relationship or if you’ve never talked about this type of issue before. Explore whether the two of you are still meeting each other’s needs and lay some ground rules for chatting with others online. Even if you think he’s in the wrong, give him some space to fix his mistakes and rebuild trust.
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