It’s enough to make your heart sink and your emotions run wild. You think you’re in a loving, committed relationship, but your friends approach you with surprising news. They’ve found your partner’s profile on a dating site, and your significant other appears to be an active user. Should you confront him? Is she cheating on you? Here’s how to cope with this potentially devastating information.
Find Out if It’s Real
Take solace in the fact that the account may not even be real. Unfortunately, it isn’t unusual for scammers to steal images from social media accounts and create fake profiles around users’ identities. Also known as catfishing accounts, these dating profiles are used to reel in unsuspecting app users; it may be difficult to find out if the profile is real without asking him directly. Approach the topic without blame, as it’s entirely possible he’s a victim in this situation. If the profile is fake, offer your help with resolving the issue, and breathe a sigh of relief that your relationship is safe and sound.
Understand the Motivation and the Extent
If your significant other admits the profile is hers, try to stay calm and understand her motivation for breaking your trust. Perhaps your relationship has been rocky for a while or you’ve recently experienced a significant change, such as one of you moving away for work. Find out if one of these major adjustments prompted her to explore her options and get a peek at what else is out there.
It’s also important to understand to what extent she used the app. Did she download the dating app and deactivate her profile right away, or has she been active for months? Did she attempt to engage with one of your friends through the app? All these questions can help you understand the extent of the breach of trust.
Gauge the Response and Reevaluate Your Relationship
Throughout your discussion, try your best to set your emotions aside and keep your reactions to a minimum. Rather than responding angrily, use your energy to probe for more information and gauge his response to your inquiries.
If he seems angry or defensive, he may not be willing to admit he’s broken your trust, which, as any authentic psychic can tell you, may signal a whole other issue. If he claims he’s just curious and he wanted to see what else was out there, this may be a good chance to find out why he’s broadening his horizons. If he apologizes and admits he’s in the wrong, this may indicate he’s truly remorseful and that he realizes he’s had a serious lapse in judgment.
No matter his response, this is a good time to reevaluate your relationship. Is this something you can move on from together, or will you spend the next several years worrying? Can you use this opportunity to identify some problem areas in your relationship and work together to fix them?
Discovering a relationship problem is never a pleasant experience, but you don’t have to experience it alone. Reach out to a love psychic or a close friend to get the support and answers you need.