Closure Part II: The Letter by Psychic Arthur

Published Date 11/12/2013
Category: Love, Relationships & Family

Let the words flow without thinking too far into it.

Getting closure from a failed relationship can be daunting. As discussed in Closure Part I: Letting Go of the Future, closure is not only about only letting go of the past, but letting go of the perceived future as well.

And while many people say: “If I could only talk with my ex one more time, then I know I’d get the closure I need.” In reality, that seldom works. However, let’s not talk about reality. What if you heard the words that you needed to hear to move on? 

According to Robert Jameson, MTF, author of The Keys to Joy-Filled Living, it’s possible to have the result you need without actually talking with your ex. It’s a simple three-day process that goes like this:

Day One: Write a letter to your ex. You’re not going to mail it, so no need to worry about punctuation, spelling, or grammar. And while you may want to do this on a computer, try actually writing the letter by hand. 

   Dear (name of your ex), 

   Paragraph One: Write the things that you like(d) and/or love(d) about them. 

   Paragraph Two: All the things that you miss or will miss about them.

   Paragraph Three: What you learned from them.

Once you’re done, sign the letter and put it aside in a safe place.

Day Two: You’re going to write another letter. This time, you’re writing a letter to yourself from your ex. It’s really not that difficult, you inherently know what they’d say or write. So go for it.

   Dear (your name),

   Paragraph One: Write all the things they like(d) and/or love(d) about you. 

   Paragraph Two: All the things they miss or will miss about you.

   Paragraph Three: What they’ve learned from you.

Once you’re done, sign the letter with their name and put it with the first letter in a safe place.

Day Three: Set aside some quiet time for yourself. It really doesn’t matter if it’s morning, noon, or night. You just need time for yourself away from the distractions of daily life. 

Take out the two letters (the one to your ex and the one from your ex) and read them out loud back-to-back. Let the words resonate. Take a deep breath. 

Now, when something dies we bury it; since the relationship has died, respectfully fold both letters together and bury them.  The healing can now begin.

It may sound like a strange process, but I’ve seen this work for many clients. Also, I’d never suggest anything that I haven’t done myself, so I know this can be beneficial tool. 

Closure belongs to you. It’s your choice. 
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