No doubt speedy relationships can end in confusion, frustration and hurt feelings, but this is not a universal. As hard as it maybe to believe, some situations that go from dinner to the bedroom can turn into successful relationships… even marriages!
For example, let’s say you meet someone in a night club or crowded bar. Between the noise, the excitement and the alcohol, it all combines to create a situation where impaired decision making is likely. Desire, libido and want sometimes makes quick partners of incompatible people. Where you meet, what you know about a prospective companion and how much time you take are all factors. Should you meet for coffee, talk at great length and get to know each other without being intoxicated, there is a chance that speedy love can work.
This all sounds good. Who would not want love at first sight? Overall, we are a culture that promotes the idea that by looking at someone without knowing much intuition will guide you towards lasting love. Countless movies and books are filled with romantic tales of people who meet and fall into passionate love fast. In reality, it can and does happen.
Love vs. Lust
Usually, but not always, once the passion starts to slow and reality sets in, that overwhelming drive can start to peter out fast. Character, values, personality even goals emerge that may find you with someone you have nothing in common. While true opposites can attract, and do, it is more often that people you share some common ground are more likely to lead to lasting love.
There is always a certain uncertain risk factor in love. There is always a little bit of a gamble involved. However, love at first sight can happen. But, that does not mean it always has a high success rate.