Breakups are a universal human experience. They cause feelings of loss akin to the death of a loved one. For this reason, when you’re recovering from the end of a relationship, you need to grieve just as you would over the death of someone close to you. Here are six coping strategies to help you through your grief.
Release Your Anger… in a Healthy Way
Whether you stick a picture of your ex on a punching bag at the gym and pummel it, or you imagine that every twig and rock that you crush underfoot during your run is your ex’s head, you need to let that anger out. Doing this will release endorphins that will boost your mood and help you feel better.
Accept Your Feelings
As hard as it is, live in the moment and accept that you’re feeling lousy now. In fact, there’s a physical reason you’re not feeling well. Recent research by anthropologist Helen Fisher revealed that the brain activity of people recovering from breakups mirrors that of recovering drug and alcohol addicts.
Realize that what you’re feeling is normal and that in time, you’ll start to feel better. It’s OK to feel sad and cry. It’s OK to be angry and to want to hit things (as long you only take it out on a punching bag… or a soft pillow). Perhaps even a psychic phone reading may help you work through those rough emotions.
Talk It Out
Invite your best friend and the family members you feel closest to over and have a good talk with them about the breakup and your feelings. Especially if they’ve been through a recent break up themselves, they can give you insight on what they went through and how they got through it. Although you may want to be alone, it’s no good to hide yourself away.
Remember What You Learned
Everything we go through in life is a learning experience. Take a few minutes out of your day and write down at least three things that you learned from your ex. Doing this will help you to reflect positively on the past. You might also schedule an online psychic reading to help you identify the benefits you’ve gained from being with your ex, even though the relationship is over.
Cut Yourself Some Slack
Be gentle with yourself while you’re going through the grieving process. Just like with addiction, getting over a breakup causes physical changes in our bodies. You aren’t going to feel 100 percent for a while. Try to reduce other sources of stress in your life as much as possible. It’s OK to pamper yourself a little.
Know the Difference Between Normal Grief and Depression
While no two people grieve in the same way, it is safe to say that time usually lessens the pain. The further away you get from the moment of the breakup the better you should start to feel. If you don’t, it is a sign of depression. For example, if you find that you still get no pleasure out of things you used to enjoy, it’s time to get some help.
There are no words that can heal a broken heart. In the midst of all the pain and sadness of a breakup, it’s hard to believe that it will get better. It will, however, and there are better days ahead.