Loving yourself is already hard to do especially in a world that’s cold. However, if you follow these six steps daily, you can give yourself a much-needed self-love/self-confidence boost for your mind, body and soul.
STEP 1 – Accept and Understand that Self-Love is Not Selfish
Loving yourself is the single most powerful thing you can do, and it is something that is so often neglected. We’re so good at showing compassion care and love for others but most of us find it difficult to do the same for ourselves. We feel guilty or selfish for any positive focus we put on ourselves and end up dwelling on any faults and insecurities that we think we have. Repeat after me “Self-Love is not Selfish.” We often think that loving ourselves means we don’t have as much love to give out to those we care about. However, love is limitless and exponential. When you learn to love yourself, you are able to love others better and more deeply as well.
STEP 2 – Smile
A smile is one of the most powerful tools that we possess. Its main purpose is to show you happiness and satisfaction. Each smile offers an incredible release of positive energy. When we smile at others, it’s contagious. It might seem counterintuitive to smile at others when you are trying to love yourself but the two are deeply connected. When we smile at others, we create a ripple of positivity throughout humanity.
We can also practice smiling at ourselves in a mirror. This falls under the old adage fake it until you make it. By smiling, we release positive chemicals in our brains to activate happiness. We receive this positive energy bounced off our reflection as we complement ourselves.
When was the last time you told yourself you’re beautiful?
When was the last time you let yourself know how amazing you are?
When was the last time you thought of yourself in a positive way?
People often spend so much time focusing on others that they forget to recognize and complement themselves.
STEP 3 – Write it Down
Challenge yourself to write down one thing you love about yourself every day. After a full year, you will know 365 things and it will make you the incredible person that you are. The first few days might be difficult for you depending on how much or how little you love yourself. Don’t worry or get discouraged, as with most things the more you practice the easier it will become. By complementing yourself, you experience a boost of energy and positivity. You can also write yourself a letter appreciating and acknowledging the effort it has taken to get where you are now and the resiliency you exhibit in the face of obstacles once you acknowledge all you’re grateful for with your body. You will be surprised by the realization that you are worthy enough, just the way you are. By complementing and loving yourself, you find your true self.
STEP 4 – Recite a Mantra
Create and recite a mantra as an impulse or rhythm of the consciousness. A mantra is a repetition of a word or phrase that expresses a belief. Mantras can create vibrations in the spirit to direct you to a more positive perspective and allow you to see the light coming in. Reciting a mantra helps you bring tranquility to your spirit and freeze you from any worries, doubts, and stress you may be facing. Mantras allow you to release yourself and live in harmony. Start with saying simple affirmations aloud like “I am enough just as I am,” or “I am worthy of love.” By saying them out loud, you channel your energy in the universe. Spend time alone with your inner dialogue to help shape how you feel about yourself. Or perhaps you'd like to try a self-love ritual to insure your self-love and self-worth are in alignment. What you speak to the universe will manifest before you.
STEP 5 – Disconnect from Technology
We’re often so wrapped up in our digital world that sometimes we need to take a step back. The more time we spend on social media, we begin to compare ourselves to others. We can end up being overwhelmed with feelings of insecurity or jealousy. It’s important to remember that the photos and information we see online don’t ever show the whole story, they are romanticized versions of the story. It’s designed to show the user in a specific way by creating specific times.
When we turn off our phones and electronic devices, we learn to be engaged with reality. You will begin to see those around us in an unfiltered light and realize that no one is any different than we are. We are all just human beings trying our best. We learn to reconnect with what it means to be a part of humanity. We begin to experience real relationships and our insecurities begin to fade away.
I know this is not going to be easy, but if you want to love yourself more, step away from the things that trigger you. Allow yourself to see the clarity and self-love that arises when you take a break from your devices. Even if you can start by committing to 30 or 60 minutes (in a row) per day and expanding from there. I am not suggesting a complete disconnect, we do depend on technology to communicate (now more than ever), work, shop, entertain us, and more. But, committing to at least 30-60 minutes away from your devices each day will do you more good than you realize.
Step 6 - Take a Moment for Self-Care
Self-care can take many forms, but it ultimately amounts to treating your body and mind with kindness. When you are kind to yourself from the inside out, amazing things happen. The aurora around your being changes and the light you radiate becomes binding. As each day passes, you become more in tune with your body. Listen to it speak. Honor it for things like hunger or sickness will happen if you don’t give your body love. Learn not to push your body when it needs rest and relaxation, even when you are feeling physically healthy. Take a bath, get a massage or just treat your body to something really peaceful and harmonious. The more you become with your body, the more you learn what it needs, and the happier you become.
There you have it, six simple steps to give yourself love daily. Try to make it part of your routine, set aside time each day and you will start to notice positive changes and improvement sooner than you expect. You must be thankful for your body that is capable for you to learn to respect and honor it. You will learn to love yourself in a deeper level of self-love that is vital for your soul and well-being. When you learn to love yourself, you will feel confident, and worthy, and have a more positive outlook. You learn to embrace all that life has to offer and can radiate your energy out which rewards everyone you meet.
Self-love is an incredible spiritual journey that helps us live in harmony and discover our greatest blessings.