The scary statistic that 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce is often bandied about. However, it’s even more frightening to realize that in America, one couple gets divorced every 13 seconds, amounting to 6,646 divorces every day and 46,523 divorces every week. However, you can help divorce-proof your marriage if you realize the things that ruin marriages and work hard to prevent them.
1. You Don’t Communicate
A lack of communication is the number one reason for divorce, so the importance of connecting can’t be underestimated. Don’t confuse communicating with simply talking though. To communicate effectively, you’ll need to practice saying what you mean and listening to your partner.
2. You Don’t Divide the Chores
It seems like a personal choice, but the decision to saddle one person with all the household chores can have serious consequences. Studies show couples who follow this traditional relationship model are more likely to divorce. It makes sense as an overburdened spouse will inevitably start to resent his or her partner’s minimal contribution. Sharing the load also helps free up time that couples can spend together on leisure activities.
The division of labor doesn’t need to be exactly equal, but you should strive for this. Consider your natural strengths and weaknesses as well as likes and dislikes when assigning the household chores.
3. You’re Not Having Fun
Those early days of coupledom are filled with gourmet dinners, movie nights, and plenty of laughs. In time though, too many couples settle into a comfortable but routine rut. If you can’t remember the last time you had fun with your spouse, your relationship could definitely use a retune.
To get your marriage back on track, think about what fun means to you and make time for it. Perhaps you miss nights dancing up a storm, days hiking the trails, or leisurely lunches at five-star restaurants. There’s no time like the present to schedule your favorite couple activities.
4. You Take Your Partner for Granted
After a few years of marriage, it’s easy to start taking one another for granted. They’re there with a kiss when you wake in the morning, and a pleasant “How was your day?” when you arrive home from work. Perhaps they buy the groceries, clean the house, or make your dinner. Perhaps you don’t even realize all the little ways that they enhance your life.
Complacency has no place in a marriage. If you’ve started to take your partner for granted, snap out of it and start paying attention. Recognize the efforts your partner makes and say thank you. Compliment your partner when he or she dresses up for a night out. Looking for the special things your partner does and acknowledging them can put your relationship back on track.
Marriage isn’t easy, but if you take preventative measures you can prevent these problems and ensure yours thrives.