Many have heard of the book and movie, "He's Just Not That Into You." and wonder if they can ever find love. My thought is to cut out the middle person so to speak, and learn to love and respect yourself first, then watch what shows up as a reflection of that deep inner journey. We take time to workout, to look good on the outside and how much time do we take to feel and look good on the inside? What if you were really into working on yourself first? What would that look like? What would you feel, so that you might know you were leading yourself towards the pot of gold at the end of your inner rainbow of loving onself.
The Importance of Self CareI'm talking about self-care that feels beyond delicious, when you do it. That snuggles you all up in a feeling of yummy love that you've known all along, except for fact that it's always existed inside yourself. The kind that we yearn for from outside ourselves, and that never seems to arrive, but for the imposter reflections that say and do all the right things for seconds and then are gone, as if an actual mirage occurred. I'm talking about the type of taking care of self, that cherishes you from the moment you awaken, until the very second you're gently nudged back into sleep. The very same that would always call yourself back, when you've felt lost in that anxious and depressive sea of emotions. These feelings that steal hours and days of your precious life. That have distressed your heart so into feeling completely unbalanced and you wonder if you can ever find love again.
Examples of Self Care
There are easy self care tips and strategies to get you back on track and create a life of balance on a physical, mental and emotional level.
Let’s focus on the physical self care strategies:
1. You are what you eat!
One easy self care strategy is when you know you are going to have an extremely busy day or week that you pre-plan what you are going to eat. There are plenty of alternatives for eating healthy. There are services now where you can order your meals for a week and follow the directions to prepare and cook. And, if that is not in your budget—-there are easy self care strategies to always have healthy snacks with you and pre-plan and prepare on Sunday what you will eat throughout the week.
An overlooked fact is the amount of water you drink throughout the day. Often you mistaken that you are hungry or tired when really your body is thirsty. You can now buy BPA bottles that measure 72 ounces and fill it up with water and drink away. Water helps to flush the toxins from your system and keeps your body hydrated.
Emotional Self Care Strategies
1. Meditation and Deep Breathing
Mental Healthcare Tips and Strategies:
1. Time Off
2. Realize you are what you think
3. Get Out in Nature
4. Meditation and Exercise
The 5-3-1 Strategy
5 Deep breaths
Remember if you continue to struggle with moodiness, feeling upset, or lack of motivation to accomplish the simplest of tasks, make sure you consult a professional to help guide you.
Appreciate the Present MomentEvery day we get of life is a blessing. It might not feel that way when we're sad and worried, or even healthy, simply living out our days, as though the end of our movie will never come. Acting out our particular stories believing life will go on endlessly, often only in the extreme turmoil we find ourselves. We can always "gather" as Kate Winslet spoke most effusively in her Golden Globe acceptance speech, as the joy of her moment seemingly overwhelmed her ability to communicate her gratitude, in the midst of all that rapturous bliss. She managed wonderfully. All to say, we're always there to be found, no matter the magnitude of emotions engaged in.
A peaceful resonance lies beyond the surface to behold. There is the now, this very moment you're reading these words. The one in which your heart can count on. The very same you can begin again, if only you could see that there is always a way through the door that appears closed. There’s an opening that simply eluded you in that particular perspective. Each of us has the power to decide which way we'd like it to be, going forward. We can realize how if we truly look after ourselves, how everything else will look after itself. We can notice that if we can completely and unconditionally allow others to be who they are in reality, they can then become more of what we'd love them to be. We can always get out of our own way of love, leaving the way clear as we take steps into that certain unknown. This is the faith we've all recognized at times, when miraculously out of nowhere, we could see the answer, a person arrives, or our situations are altered. It is at these precise timings, we're reminded of what we've always known in our hearts to be the truth, which is that something that we will never completely fathom does indeed exist.
Be Happy with Yourself FirstThere truly is a Divine action taking care of us, when we feel we cannot. We can call it God, the Universe, or simply Energy. It is that experience that moves you beyond the dense stuck moments, flowing you into freedom of that apparent prison. This path is always available to us. It's only a shift of perspective away from your grasp. It has been inside you all along. If you click your heels together three times, it might be a means to remind yourself of the home you have to share. It is the only love that radiates from your being, as you nurture the unique and most special individual you are. You can change any of your directions NOW.
Are you really completing yourself, or are you waiting on the one who will show you all the places you feel a lack of self love? He, She's just not that into you. Are you just that into yourself? We will be completed, have companionship, have all we need to be at peace, from the inside out. This will occur when the resistance of what is, is embraced and let go of. As I've heard it said, "Let go of everything you want and everything you don't want. " Ah, then Peace arrives, and you will have it all as you learn to love yourself first! The knots are untied and the path is cleared to the home of your heart, where all the Love is.