Some women like the idea of a man wiling to chase after them. Movies and television have been filled with love struck men in hot pursuit of the woman of their dreams. Entire realty shows have been built on the idea of having men compete to win “The Bachelorette.”
Hunting for Love?
The only problem with creating a scenario where your Romeo must run though fire and ice to get to you is that the chase may end in disappointment. After all the expectations, demands and hurdles have been conquered and your finally together, there is the very possibility that the hunt was far more interesting than the prey.
Building anticipation means building expectations. If the expectations he has are too high after the courting, dinners and gifts have been given, the prize at the end of the rainbow may seem, well lacking, even boring. The chase was fun, the victory, not so much. Another down fall with turning love into a “come and get me” game is that your brave hunter could be a real loser desperate for love.
Begging for Love?
For someone who just loves to be pursued like a deer in the forest, there is the very real possibility that the man who does everything for you is so weak, so insecure and so insipid that you may have hitched your wagon to a broken-down mule. His desperate phone calls, his need to be around you 24 hours a day, his crying, pleading and neediness can turn from being cute into being irritating. Now you are stuck dumping a man who you know will turn into a basket case when you let him know it is over.
In either scenario you look at finding yourself dumped and discarded, or tied to a loser incapable of being a man. Wanting to be wanted is nice. But, when you turn love into a treat after a long chase, you risk finding real love. In the end, all you may have is a game, and no players.