Keys to a Fulfilling Relationship - A Psychic Source Interview

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To get a guy to commit to a relationship, there are two important rules of thumb that we, ladies should always apply. These rules are simple, yet difficult because it requires something many women struggle with. The first rule would be to have an independent lifestyle already in place. Clinginess is not attractive, but a woman who has her things going on creates a sense of mystery. If a man knows that you can care for yourself, before he enters your life, this can be a very attractive quality.  

The second rule of thumb would be to allow him to lead. Do not try to be the alpha, instead allow him to show you what his plans are for the connection. A man always knows what he wants, even when he does not verbalize or show it. Allow him to show you through his actions more than his words and his intentions. Often, men are slower to move than women, so remember not to rush things. Instead, have open conversations about where you stand. Ask questions like, where do you see this relationship heading? Versus asking, “When are we getting serious?” Once you receive your answer, listen carefully to his response, and decide if this union is going anywhere for you. If not, move on! If he is interested in you, he will pursue it. After all, it is all about the chase.

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The right time to discuss commitment in a relationship is when you decide that you want to be sexually or romantically monogamous with an individual. When you come to this conclusion, your next immediate step is to communicate this to your partner. Communication is key here because we need both individuals on the same page. Discussing commitment is essential to understanding where you currently stand, and where the relationship is headed.

There is no definitive timeline to place on discussions of commitment in a relationship because every relationship is unique. Consider the following questions such as, is this a person I want to commit to? What about this relationship makes me want a commitment? How long have I known this person, and do I truly know them? Why do I want this commitment now? Is it a fear-based decision or a sex-based decision? Are there any red flags that you choose to ignore about this person?

Once you’ve identified your reasons for wanting a committed relationship with your person, consider your timeline. How long have you been together? How will your families or children be affected by this decision? While there is no definitive timeline, getting to truly know someone does take time. Make sure you confidently know your partner, before asking for a commitment of any sort. Remember, the discussion of commitment first happens within oneself.

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There is no official timeline for when to transition a relationship from dating/courting to an official one. There are general rules that most people like to follow and that is, you should date a man for at least 3 months before making things “official”. 3 months is usually a long enough time for you to get to know someone well enough to move things along. A few factors that may contend with the 3-month window are long-distance relationships, re-instituting relationships with exes, and family values. 

It is not advised to make a relationship official before 3 months to allow yourself enough time to get to know an individual. During the dating and courting stages of the relationship, you and your partner should be exploring one another’s interests through good times. In circumstances, where you were friends before lovers, you may find that 3 months is a long time due to your history. Because your relationship is transitioning from one that was platonic to one that is now romantic or sexual, still apply the 3-month rule. Dynamics can shift once friends become lovers. 

The best way overall to know that you are ready to make this decision to become official in a relationship is to make sure you are both over your exes and not rebounding with this current connection. Many times, people rush into serious relationships too soon to help them heal from past failed ones. If you want your new relationship to become more than just dating, make sure that both you and your new boo are officially ready to leave your past behind. 

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Getting a man’s attention first depends on the man. What does he like, what do you notice that he is into, and what are his interests? Assess this first through observation and questions. One of the best ways into a man’s heart is not through his stomach but through his mind. Because most men operate through their logical brains, this does not stop when it comes to love. Showing a man that you are intelligent and interesting, and conversing in shared interests will activate his interest in you.

Next, comes an equally important step. Look, smell, and exude feminine confidence. Smile often, make firm eye contact, and wear outfits that flatter your physique. Again, confidence is key here, a man will notice a woman’s confidence first. Accentuate your most positive assets. All of this is displayed through her choice of wardrobe, words (is she loud and obnoxious), and scent. The sense of smell is one of our strongest forms of memory. Make him remember you with a delicate, yet sexy smell. Nothing too pungent or you run the risk of it being offensive. Fragrances that are said to attract men’s attention are musk, vanilla, and amber-like scents.  

Here’s a little tip, try whispering the name of your desired person in your mind while you are in the same room. Notice if they can feel your energy connecting to them? Once they do, make eye contact, smile, or wink. Lastly, and most importantly, do not appear desperate. Allow him to notice you without doing too much or appearing too eager for attention by biding for it from others, including other men. Let yourself be seen by him naturally, never force it. Be careful how you conduct this behavior in work settings or professional environments. 

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This can be approached in two different ways. Creating a welcoming environment that encourages getting closer in a relationship can start with how comfortable you feel in the relationship. Both parties should have the range to openly be themselves. When each person can “be themselves” our innate defense walls drop. Each partner should give the other space to express their feelings, thoughts, dreams, and ambitions without judgment. Often, this is not achieved without a sense of emotional intelligence including knowing one another’s love language. Identify what common goals you share, whether those are fitness, financial, or general goals like starting a personal herb garden. Working towards a common goal is a tactic that is highly effective in creating intimacy in relationships and resolving differences.   

Another way to approach creating an environment that encourages a closer relationship is through the ambiance. Does your home setting invite love, romance, sensuality, and passion? This does not mean turning your house into a sex dungeon, but it can imply sparking things up through music, flowers, candles, and aromatherapy such as rose or patchouli scents. Most important keep your home clean and de-cluttered. Feng shui in your intimate space such as your bedroom with pops of color that makes you feel sexy such as violet, red, or black even. Play romantic and sensual music, even when it is not time for intimacy. Playing love songs keeps the energy of love present within your environment. 

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To make a man stay interested in you, it is important to keep your care routines up. Maintaining an attractive physical appearance is more than keeping the same body weight all your relationship. This is about making the effort to always look and feel your best, and to remain confident in your body. As women, it is inevitable for our bodies to go through changes, especially after children, so this is not about remaining a certain weight. Instead, embrace your changes by confidently always putting forth your best foot. Your appearance is a representation of both you and your partnership. Many men enjoy having a beautiful, confident woman at their side, as it is a reflection on them as well. 

To also keep a man’s interest, remain mysterious. The best way to do this is by having your own life, interests, hobbies, and social circles. This can even extend to having your own source of income. When you have your things going on, it makes you less dependent on your partner to fulfill your social battery. Boredom can contribute to overbearing energy. Gain and maintain a life outside of the relationship. This could mean traveling independently with friends as well. The saying is true, absence makes the heart grow fonder.  

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If he begins to pull away from your relationship, do not persist to pursue someone that may need space. The first thing to consider is what your partner may be going through. Men are driven first by their ambitions. Ask yourself, is he having a rough time with work, and is there any stress that your partner may be under? Consider first that this may be the reason he is pulling away, before assuming the worst about the relationship. Have an open, candid conversation about how you feel. Most times, he may not notice that he is becoming distant. If he does not, gently point this out, and provide examples to support your viewpoint. Present these points in a non-confrontational manner, this will allow your partner to be more receptive to your message. Ask your partner about ways that you can be more supportive and what their current needs are in the relationship. 

If your partner vocalizes that they may need space from the relationship, be willing to grant them this time apart. During this time, do not badger yourself for things that you may have done wrong for the relationship to have gotten to this point. Instead, embrace the space and allow yourself to continue to live your life. If you have a family with this individual, consider couples therapy to help identify healthy coping mechanisms for you both. The most important thing to remember is just because someone is pulling away, it does not mean you are the sole reason behind it. Never assume what your partner is thinking and feeling and keep communication channels open so that all parties feel comfortable with expressing their truth.