After being in a relationship for several years, sometimes it starts feeling like too much of the same. If it feels like the spark has gone out and you’re going through the motions, don’t despair. There are several different ways you can get the spark back and start loving your relationship again.
Explore the Future
Take some time together to see what your future holds. There are a number of ways to go about exploring the future with your significant other. Sit down and talk about what you both want. Consult an online psychic to gain his or her wisdom and perspective. Discuss a variety of fantastical situations, such as winning the lottery and talk about what you would do with the winnings. As you explore your future together, you’ll become closer. In addition, this helps open up the lines of communication.
Have a Date Night
Having regular date nights is important to a relationship. It helps you focus on each other, rather than just the everyday things happening in your life. If you have children, establishing a regular date night is crucial. During your date, make sure that you’re talking about more than just the kids and finances. Reexamine what makes each of you tick. Learn new and interesting things about your partner. Find something new to do in the area, instead of just watching a movie and grabbing dinner. Go bowling, head to the arcade, or take a hike.
Find a Hobby
If you truly want to become more intimate with your partner and rekindle the relationship, work toward finding something you both love to do together. Having a mutual hobby allows you to spend quality time together working toward a similar goal. Playing video games, woodworking, or even painting can become a new hobby that the two of you work on. While you’re brainstorming hobby ideas, make sure to consider things that both of you would enjoy doing.
Be willing to try a few different things, and open your mind to the possibilities. Something that doesn’t sound like your thing at first may quickly grow to be an activity you love.
Learn Their Love Language
Knowing how your partner expresses their love and how they feel love from you, is important. There are five different love languages — words of affirmation, quality time, gifting, acts of service, and physical touch.
If you have different love languages, it’s crucial that you learn to show your partner love in the way they receive. For example, if your partner receives love through words of affirmation, show your love by letting him or her know what you love most either through speaking them or leaving love notes. On the other hand, someone who receives love with acts of service will feel you love him or her when you do little chores around the house.
Ensuring that you feel intimate in your relationship allows the relationship to grow. Do things together, from a love tarot reading to planning a date. The more you work toward the intimacy you crave, the more you’ll find it waiting there for you.