As a rule most people don’t like to be interrupted, but everyone does it at one point or another. Women interrupt to show concern. However, for most men, interruptions (regardless of the intention) can often lead to frustration and anger. Why?
Because guys basically focus on what’s in front of them, giving it their full, undivided attention. You know, “guys can only do one thing at a time.” Interrupt a guy’s train of thought and he has to refocus on what’s in front of him, which can ultimately bring about lots of delays. Additionally, if a guy starts explaining his feelings of frustration for being disrupted, any supportive interjections a woman might make (i.e. “go on”) is also going to be interpreted as an interruption as well.
Now, everyone knows (at least I hope so) that men and women process things differently. Here’s an example of how men and a women process and handle an interruption of sorts:
When a woman starts reading a book and the phone rings, she puts her finger down on the last word she’s read, and answers the phone. After having a conversation, she hangs up the phone, looks down at the page where her finger is keeping place, and continues reading from where she left off.
Now, when a guy starts reading a book and the phone rings, he either puts the book down or closes the book with his finger holding the page, and answers the phone. After having a conversation, he hangs up the phone. He either picks up the book or opens the book to where his finger is keeping place, and starts looking for where he left off. Confused and not sure where he left off, he starts reading the book from the beginning.
Every time a guy gets interrupted he has to start processing from the beginning—again!
So, the moral of the story: If a woman gives a man his space and doesn’t interrupt him, he gets through whatever he’s focusing on and will be around her to focus on her much sooner.
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