There is the assumption that forgiving is about letting someone off the hook for having hurt you. No wonder it’s a hard thing to do but it is not the only meaning. But, have you ever looked at the word itself? Break it down into two parts and you have For-Giving. Now, take a look at it from this new perspective and you get that it is:
A New Year is an exciting time for review and reassessment of your life and goals. It is during this time where your attention is focused on what is to come. Just consider if you want room for new things, you need to organize what you already have by choosing what to keep and discarding of what no longer
serves you. I will call them “offenses”.
Forgiveness is like taking out the trash and The New Year is the perfect time to do it.
Here are three ideas to get you started:
1. Write the offense on a piece of paper. Make it as detailed as you want. Color over it with a black crayon or paint until you can no longer see any of the words. Cut the paper into tiny pieces. Say out loud “This is for giving me peace.” Then throw it away.
2. While rubbing the palms of your hands together, imagine the offense as a small ball of energy between your hands. The faster you rub your palms, the smaller it gets until it disappears. Do this for as long as you need.
3. Fill small balloons with water and stomp on them until they burst. You can add any statement such as, “I release.”, “I let go.”, “It is finished.” Make sure you are in a safe place and don’t mind getting a little wet. This technique is very satisfying!
Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing what happened. Only you decide if that is right for you. When you create space for giving yourself the opportunity to let go, you clear the way for the energy of the New Year and new beginnings to come into your life.
As we continue to charge into the New Year, keep this quote from Wayne Dwyer in mind, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”