Too many people have gotten into the habit of making New Year’s resolutions each year and then forgetting about them or giving them up before the end of January. The tradition started as an important part of the new year but has become something of a game without a purpose over time. Making and keeping your resolutions is important, so think twice before giving up on them so easily.
Know Why You're Doing It
The first step in setting goals is to understand your motivation. Why do you want to lose weight, get fit, or quit smoking? If you're simply doing something because someone else is pressuring you, you won't stick to it.
First, get honest about why you want to do it and if you're ready to change. You may have known for years that you need to drop some weight and have done nothing about it. Now, a doctor's visit reveals you have high blood pressure and are prediabetic. This news immediately motivates you to drop a few pounds and get in shape.
Seek the Source of Your Problems
If you're trying to resolve an issue in your life, identify the source of that problem. If you can't pinpoint the cause, you're less likely to succeed in dealing with it. Perhaps you smoke because you enjoy the afternoon break. Taking time to step outside for a walk will allow you to enjoy the same relief. If you understand the motivation behind a habit, you can better replace it with a satisfying alternative.
The most important part of making your resolutions is it becomes a time for self-reflection. You’re taking the time to look over the last year (or several years) and see what you can improve upon for the upcoming one. Many resolutions center around making yourself a better person. However, this self-reflection means nothing if you don’t follow through with it. Making the same goals and resolutions each year becomes a habit, getting rid of the entire point of reflecting over the year. If you’re having a hard time reflecting, consider an online psychic to help you figure out what is blocking your energy.
Resolving to Improve Your Health
The start of a brand-new year is the perfect time to turn those harmful habits around and make a New Year's resolution to get healthy and have fun doing it. If you've made resolutions before, only to drop them days or weeks later, you know it isn't always easy to change your habits. How can you make healthy changes that last?
As you make resolutions, you’re working toward making yourself a better person. However, if you let these resolutions go before you even really start, you’re not actually improving. Sure, there are things that you do every day to make yourself better but having a solid list of the things you personally want to work toward can help you drastically enhance your life. You’re able to actively improve your lifestyle in the ways you feel are most important. Look toward the future several years and decide where you want to be. Then, focus your resolutions on how you can get to this future.
Be Open to Start Something New
"A new year is a time to be fearless, get out of your comfort zone and refocus your motivation" explains Psychic Hope. "How else can you live if you do not step out and try something different in life? Be open to new experiences. You never know what is around the corner for you when opportunity knocks. When one door closes, another one opens. Again, it is about having a healthy mindset.
Coping with Stress with New Techniques
This is where you become open-minded and creative. Time to mix it up. Here are some positive suggestions:
- Trying different forms of meditation or yoga in your spiritual practices.
- Incorporating deep breathing exercises.
- Practicing new affirmations.
- Listening to calming music.
- Journaling your thoughts.
- Doing visualizations, maybe a vision board.
- Eating healthier or plant-based food.
- Drinking herbal teas that help you relax and bring calmness.
- Going to a Bed and Breakfast to get away to recharge and meet new people.
- Spoiling yourself with a massage (safely, of course).
- Learning a new healing art, like reiki.
- Allowing yourself to say NO more often, which is healthy.
Living Life and Loving You First
Let go of insecurities. Know your self-worth and that you deserve to be happy. You cannot please everyone around you. Time to put you first. Make it a point to love yourself more. You are your own best friend. Give back to yourself by living your best life ever. This is called self-love."
One of the most frustrating things about making a New Year’s resolution is that many people choose large or unachievable goals. Remember to keep them small and attainable. This helps you continue with your resolutions throughout the year. Instead of saying you want to have thousands of dollars in savings by the end of the year, make a resolution to start putting five dollars from each paycheck into your savings account. This is something that is easy to do and still gets you working toward that larger goal. It won’t leave you feeling burned out and stressed within a month.
You may want to change a dozen things in your life but trying to do them all at once is a one-way ticket to failure. Making changes, especially those involving addictive or unhealthy habits, is hard. That's why it's best to pick one major goal for the year to work towards. Trying to tackle too many things at once is overwhelming and not sustainable. You'll quit by February. Accomplish one goal, savor the success, and then move on to another.
Set SMART Goals
We're all guilty of dreaming about things we'd like to see in our lives. We'd like to earn more money, live in a nice big house, or travel the world. This is called wishful thinking, and even an online psychic can't make your wishes come true. Many have a bucket list a mile long but with few items checked off. That's because broad, undefined goals are unachievable. Use the SMART goals system. Be specific, list actionable steps, and set measurable goals. SMART stands for:
Avoid the 'All or Nothing' Trap
When we fall off the wagon, a switch seems to flip in our brain. One bad day of eating, and we quit a diet altogether. There are people who proudly call themselves "all or nothing" people. Either they're in it 100 percent or they don't bother at all. That approach rarely works when making big changes in life because failures will come along.
Treat Your Body Right
If you overindulged during the holiday season or if you simply want to make a healthy change, the start of a new year is the ideal time to start a different meal plan. However, adopting a new daily diet doesn't have to focus on cutting out the foods you love or on losing substantial weight. Instead, aim for a sustainable style of eating that helps you feel your best, no matter the season. Strive to eat healthy, nutritious foods that treat your body right all year.
Don't have time for an hour-long workout? Just do 15 minutes. Something is better than nothing, and it's motivating. Taking little steps will get you back on track faster than you think.
Learn Something New
Whether your college career is still fresh in your mind or more years than you can count have passed since you last opened a textbook, you'll find so many opportunities to learn something new. This year, give your mind a workout by resolving to learn something you've always wanted to know more about, from languages and cooking techniques to high-level science and engineering topics. With so many university- and expert-level courses available online, it's easier than ever to give your brain a boost.
Make Resolutions a Family Affair
You can also add more meaning to your New Year's resolutions if you share them with the people you love. Make it a family affair, creating resolutions and tracking them together. Involve your kids or even your extended family.
Not only does this add more meaning to your New Year's resolutions, but it also makes you more likely to stick with your goals. According to Fast Company, sharing your resolutions creates a social connection and keeps you accountable.
If your family members don't express interest in sharing New Year's resolutions, find other people in your social circle to join you. Friends, colleagues, and fellow hobbyists can all join forces to give resolutions more meaning and weight.
Sometimes a third party can see an obstacle with more clarity. You're extremely close to your New Year's resolutions, so you might develop blind spots that prevent you from meeting your commitments. Don't assume you have to do it alone.
Share Your Goals
Whether you're nervous about sharing your resolutions with loved ones or you can't wait to tell the world, it's important to make your objectives known. Naturally, this will reinforce your commitment and may even help you stay accountable. Try sharing your goals with your family and friends on social media, as writing your resolutions down will help make them tangible.
Find an Accountability Partner
Don't stop with simply broadcasting your goals. Talk to those close to you about the changes they're planning to make in the upcoming year. Partner up with someone who's made a similarly fitness-minded resolution, and keep each other accountable. Check in with each other at designated intervals to share your achievements and challenges and make sure you're both on track.
Change Your Routine
If you've set your sights on major changes, keep in mind that you may need to adjust your routine to make room for your new healthy habits. For instance, you may need to wake up earlier each day to squeeze in a workout, or you may need to set aside time for meal prep on Sundays.
As you keep meeting your goals, you're bound to feel increasingly happier with how you feel and look. To keep your motivation high throughout the year, reward yourself every so often. Rather than allowing yourself an unhealthy treat or a cheat day, try rewarding yourself with a great new pair of running shoes, a high-tech fitness tracker, or something else that makes you happy and will help you stick to your resolutions.
Enhance Your New Year's Resolutions with Candle Burning
"Adding candle burning can enhance the energy of your desired resolutions/wishes for the coming year" according to Psychic Suzi. "The burning of candles has brought solace, consolation, mystery and magic for many centuries. The popularity of burning candles has gone below and above ground, from the ancient royal courts to the terror of the Salem witch burnings. However, in our modern time where the tech world is king, the fascination with the fire magic of candle burning has found a new enthusiastic audience.
First, carefully select your New Year’s resolutions and write them down on paper. Keep a copy close to you—perhaps by your bedside to view it when you go to bed and when you rise each day. Add into the mix a strong dose of visualization. This is very important because if you can see it, you can fuel the manifestation. Be patient and realistic as you proceed.
Next, select your candle color. The energy of the color is so important in boosting events/wishes to form.
Here is a list of colors, days and astrological signs to help you manifest a more positive energy for your New Year’s resolutions:
- White Candle - Rules Monday and Aries. Enhances protection/purity and all positive energy.
- Green Candle - Rules Friday, Cancer and Sagittarius. Enhances all money matters, good health and prosperity as well as luck.
- Purple Candle - Rules Wednesday and Aquarius. Enhances psychic talents, spiritual matters, dreams/visions, and all arts.
- Red Candle - Rules Tuesday and Taurus. Enhances Love/passion/sex and high body energy/sports.
- Yellow Candle - Rules Sunday, Virgo and Scorpio. Enhances mental smarts, friendship, and enthusiasm
- Pink Candle - Rules Tuesday and Libra. Enhances romance, compassion, tenderness and charity.
- Tangerine or Royal Purple - Rules Sunday and Leo. Enhances loyalty, personal power, and generous heart.
- Plum or Hunter Green - Rules Thursday and Capricorn. Enhances business power, endurance, and patience.
- Bright Green or Orchid - Rules Wednesday and Gemini. Enhances quick mental activity, originality, and public relations.
Lastly, it’s helpful to start your process of candle burning during the new moon, allowing your desires to increase as the full moon arrives.
Candle burning is a simple but powerful technique in its ability to create positive results."
Follow Through with Your Resolutions
The beginning of the year is a time for creating resolutions, but many people tend to have trouble following through with the promises they make to themselves. Whether you made a New Year's resolution to lose weight or spend more time with your children, do you have a plan of action? Have you been following through?
According to statistics, only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolution. Based on a list from Time Magazine, here are some of the most commonly broken resolutions: Lose weight, get fit, quit smoking, eat healthier, save money, travel more, drink less, and manage stress. With a 92% failure rate, there is a term for refusal to change, followed by trying and failing. It is called "false hope syndrome". That's right, there is actually a definition for failing to keep a New Year’s resolution.
4 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail
1. You aren't doing it for yourself. For example, your spouse wants you to lose weight. you have to want it for yourself.
2. It's not specific enough or it’s too big. For example, you want to quit smoking, lose weight, and save money. This is nothing measurable here and it is pretty broad. Try to narrow it down and focus.
3. You don't have a plan.
4. No one is holding you accountable.
A lot of people just give up on their New Years' resolutions if they've been lazy for a week or two. You shouldn't have this mentality. You can step up your game and pick up where you left off. Even if you're one of those people that quit in the first week this year, there is still hope for you.
Changing Your New Year’s Resolutions
Psychic Arthur offers suggestions on what happens if you need to take a step back and alter your New Year’s Resolutions.
"So, now it’s a few weeks after January 1st - how are those New Year’s Resolutions working out for you? While that laundry list you made might have looked good on paper, executing them is a whole other story and, like most people, you may have already given up.
However, it’s not to late to start over again. Here are some suggestions to reboot those resolutions to make them achievable.
First, think of a resolution as a goal. Now, break that goal down into smaller goals on how it can be achieved and remember to give yourself plenty of time to get there.
In other words, if you’re not a runner and your resolution was to run 5-miles everyday and you took off on a 5-mile run on January 2nd, chances are you didn’t to make it. Instead, try starting off with maybe walking a quarter mile for a few weeks then add a little more running each week and then add a little more distance. It may take several months, but once you achieve your goal, keeping the resolution is set.
Breaking resolutions and goals down into several achievable ones, gives you a positive sense of accomplishment and you’ll want to continue.
Now, if your goal was/is to lose weight (gee, never heard that one before) Dr. Roy Baumeister, a professor of psychology at Florida State University and co-author of the book, Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength, explains it best:
'I would say if losing weight is difficult, and, you know, that's the most challenging thing, don't make that the first thing you do. Set a more realistic goal to, you know, make your bed every day or stop swearing in front of the children or I don't know what. You know, and then when you've made those changes and those are successful, then you can move on perhaps to a more challenging one.'
Also, when it comes to behavioral modification, try doing something for twenty-one days in a row. Why? It takes twenty-one days to reprogram the brain into accepting a new behavior."
Take it One Day at a Time
Let's move even further ahead now. Maybe you made it through the first few weeks of the year, but were you one of the millions of folks who about three months ago made one or more New Year’s resolutions to get motivated for the new year? Whether it’s a better work ethic, physical fitness goals, or spiritual pursuits, encouragement can turn into pressure quickly when it is coming from every direction. What to start, what to continue, and what to complete are the questions that a new year will stir up for all of us.
It's no wonder that fitness centers and religious institutions are packed in early January and it isn’t a surprise when they are nearly empty (or at least back to normal) by the end of the month. It happens every year.
Why do so many of us make these resolutions every January and mostly fail to maintain them for more than a couple of weeks, let alone months?
"Beginning any process is exciting especially when so many others are also motivated" reminds Psychic Ivanka. "But when the masses are losing interest we can stick with the plan, meet our objectives and have fun while we are doing it. Because long after the hype of the New Year is over, we will still have to face ourselves and the only way to guarantee that we don’t have the same resolutions for 2021 is to take it one day at a time and do not quit!
And remember, a “resolution” doesn’t have to begin just because we hang up a new calendar on the wall. You can resolve to make changes, big or small, starting anytime of year it feels right. So, a March Resolution can be just as effective, perhaps even more so, than one made simply because tradition suggests it’s time to make them annually on January 1st. Do what feels right for you, WHEN it feels right, and you will likely find less pressure and more success as a result!"
For additional help deciding what resolutions are right for you, take a sneak peak into the new year, with a New Year Tarot Spread. Psychic Source Advisor Shannon explores two New Year Tarot readings you can partake in at home to help reflect on the past year and provide a guided look at the upcoming 12-months ahead. It's a fun and informative way to kick off any new year.
It will be the pleasure of any of our gifted Psychic Source Advisors to guide you back on the path of reclaiming YOU. It is all about taking the first step for change and heading into the future without fear. Just have a little faith. Know when to surrender and let go. Trust the universe to lead YOU into peace, while knowing that abundance is coming back to YOU.
Cheers and Happy New Year!