Everyone goes through bad periods. For some people, however, negativity takes root. They become addicted to it. If you're constantly bemoaning your lot in life, you're stuck in a cycle of negativity. If the cycle isn't broken, it will distort your view of the world and wreak havoc in your life. An online psychic can help you find the silver lining, but you'd still need to take some steps to eradicate a root of negativity.
Recognize Triggers and Patterns
Not everyone is naturally positive and optimistic. Some are prone to negativity and pessimism. Perhaps it's in the stars — an astrology reading can tell if you fall under a more melancholic birth sign. If you do, you'll have to work harder at becoming positive. First, recognize your thought patterns and what triggers them. If you're an introvert who struggles in social settings, don't run the "I'm not good at making friends" rhetoric. Disrupt these thoughts with new ones. Focus on a positive and change the thought to, "I have a few close friends who are always there for me."
Break the Habit of Complaining
Complaining can become a habit. It's easier to whine about the world, your job, your life. Venting can be good for our mental health as it releases pent-up frustration. However, keep it up for long enough and you'll carve a negativity groove in your brain. The good news is you can retrain your brain. Become aware of how many times a day you complain. Next, make a decision to stop complaining for 30 days. Instead, every day list things you're grateful for. By the end of that month, you'll be well on your way to a positive mindset. You'll also realize how many things you have to be grateful for.
Many of us are experts at self-flagellation. We beat ourselves up at the slightest hint of failure. If we cheat on a diet, we chastise ourselves for having no willpower to lose weight. Self-criticism destroys our belief that we can overcome challenges and succeed. It's ultimately self-defeating. After all, why bother trying when you already know you're going to fail? Choose to be kind to yourself. So you slipped up on the diet yesterday, but you can do better today. Accept that you are human and will make mistakes. Forgive yourself and move on.
Chronic negativity often results from being self-absorbed. It's all about our problems. The more we dwell on ourselves, the more fuel it adds to the negativity fire. It's a vicious cycle. By obsessing about what's wrong in our lives, we lose perspective. The best way to snap out of it is to focus on others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, a children's home, or homeless shelter. Do you know someone in need who you can help? Very quickly, you'll realize that your problems pale in comparison to others.
Remember, there is a difference between a bad patch and a negativity cycle. A bad patch is temporary, and they come and go at various times in our lives. It's normal to feel down during these times. A negativity cycle is a long-term spiral that will keep you trapped if you don't break out of it.