I’m going to share the next few thoughts in ALL CAPS. (Not that I’m yelling, I just don’t want you to miss it!)
TEMPORARY SOLUTIONS AND SKIPPING STEPS TO GET AHEAD, WON’T LEAD TO A FULL RECOVERY.
NO MATTER HOW BADLY WE WANT TO RECOVER OVERNIGHT, GOING THROUGH THE PROCESS AND THE JOURNEY, IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE END GOAL.
WE ALWAYS LEARN SOMETHING, NOTHING IS EVER A LOSS.
We all have our own ways of grieving and coming to terms with what is going on around us. Here are a few of my important tips when I am working with someone who is on a road of discovery, trauma, recovery, and victimization.
* Everything you feel is valid. The first stop on the road to recovery is accepting that there is something to recover from.
* Baby steps. Be gentle with yourself on the days you need to be. No one expects you to be a superhero. There is NO time frame for recovery. We all adjust differently.
* Do not be afraid to ask for help. Build yourself a solid support system. I LOVE that I can be a cheerleader from the sidelines for all my clients :)
* Listen to yourself. Whether your recovery is emotional, mental or physical it is important to listen to the signals that your body or mind is trying to send you.
* Do not manifest your fears. Recovery is a learning process, whether you are learning how to walk, how to love, or how to hold your head up high with confidence. Everything worthwhile is created through a process.
Once more in CAPS for emphasis!
THOMAS EDISON DID NOT INVENT THE LIGHT BULB IN ONE NIGHT, SO WHY WOULD YOUR PERSONAL SOURCE OF LIGHT BE ANY DIFFERENT?
As an advisor, social worker, friend, confidant and your listening ear, I want you to take the time to work on yourself. To take EVERY opportunity to learn. I want you to stop pretending that everything is OK so that we can get you working on closing old doors and opening new ones.
Before you teach yourself how to walk again, you must learn how to stand on your own two feet. You must learn how to step over obstacles that might get in your way without falling back down. Eventually, you’ll learn how to run or even dance. But even when you’re dancing, never let yourself forget how you taught yourself to stand back up.
I’m a “come as you are” kind of girl. I want to meet the REAL you. My space is always safe, empowering and non-judgmental. If you need support on this topic or any guidance, please free to reach out to me at x9459. I would love to connect with you!
Sending love, hugs and healing your way,