A divorce is a good example.
Two people so in love at the beginning – non-stop plans, on the same page and ready to be with each other for the rest of their lives. They “know” each other, can finish the other’s sentences, make plans for marriage, children, etc. How did it go from best friend to the “stranger” that lives in the house? No longer can they rely on the other for anything!
Divorce Has to Be a Death
There is almost a hush after a person dies. God gives us time to grieve, to process the loss of a loved one, to release our emotions. Yet so many die a thousand deaths way before they leave this Earth. People just don’t see these as deaths. Sometimes the ending of friendships, work partnerships, families, and yes, divorces allows the wakening that a person really needs to live! Being away from toxic people and stepping into a new identity is like being reborn.
Divorce can be messy and unhappy. Lots of people fear being alone. Some tend to walk - no, let’s just say JUMP into another relationship. Here is the irony: if they didn’t deal with the issues from the marriage they just exited, the person that they just left show up again in the NEW relationship - a different face but mannerisms to sometimes facial characteristics will be VERY similar. And ta dah, the patterns and issues from the past come back because they weren’t dealt with the first time around.
Take Time to Grieve
When you see a couple that have been married forever it is a testament to their endurance, patience, and respect (hopefully) for one another. It is especially more wonderful to honor in our world where being divorced has become so common in our society. After divorce, it is dealing with the mourning of life without the other person, there is paperwork and financial changes (half of the income), being a half of someone, sometimes even losing friendships acquired or obtained through the other person.
Death is Inevitable for Everyone