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If you’ve caught yourself thinking “I hate my job,” it’s time to look deeper with help of an objective and intuitive professional. Are you dissatisfied with your role and responsibilities, your compensation, or your prospects for advancement? Or are you dealing with toxic co-workers, a bad boss, or patterns of favoritism, bullying, or pressure to conform? In the latter cases, you may be facing a toxic work environment. Our psychics have helped hundreds of clients navigate these issues and can help you identify the hidden motivations and dynamics at work so that you can make positive and empowering choices.
Let’s start with some definitions. A toxic work environment goes deeper than just a job you hate. It’s a constellation of interpersonal dysfunction and drama played out in a workplace setting, that while just short of being illegal, may cause you to become stressed, sick, anxious, or disempowered -- despite enjoying the actual work itself. Often there are multiple signs of a toxic workplace, ranging from mild gossip to outright bullying.
Work stress resulting from toxic employees, coworkers, and bosses is common. Can you relate to any of these signs of work stress?
Let’s look at some common signs of a toxic work environment and how to deal with them.
Office politics are the manifestation of power dynamics between individuals and groups. A highly politicized work environment can be toxic when navigating relationships takes precedence over getting work done. Work alliances form wherein the same favored people get the praise and perks. Brown-nosing the boss gets power and promotion. Individuals and departments are pitted against each other with an expectation that people will take sides. There is a system to be worked, and unspoken rules dictate how work gets done or else it’s blocked.
Here are some suggestions on what to do if your work environment is highly politicized.
A clique can be neutral or even supportive when a group of people who share similar values or experiences spend time together without any exclusionary intent. However, cliques can have a negative impact on the workplace when they cause people outside the clique to feel like they are less valued than people on the inside, and when the clique actively excludes others or talks down about them behind their backs.
What’s the difference between casual conversation, idle gossip, and harmful gossip? Though they all may take place behind your back, there is a key difference of intent. If you overhear a co-worker talking about a work project you’re on, it may be idle conversation, but if they have no direct knowledge of the project and are essentially passing along rumors, it’s almost certainly gossip. If the co-worker expresses delight that you were removed from a project team or says something personally demeaning about you, it's harmful gossip.
When cliques begin to form and harmful gossip starts to swirl, your workplace can become toxic quickly. Here are some strategies to cope.
Instead of working together and being openly supportive of individual talents, people often mistakenly turn to a counterproductive tug of war to get ahead of those they admire. Workplace jealousy reveals professional insecurity and feelings of ineptitude on your coworker's, or even your boss’s part. Sometimes you can alleviate that fear with positive reinforcement of their talents, but more often than not this person's toxic thinking lies beyond your control. It can often have more to do with their self-image than your treatment of them.
One tell-tale sign that your coworker or boss is threatened by you is when disagreements happen in the workplace, they feel more like competition or power struggles. Often this is because your talents have been noticed and jealousy abounds. This means you excelled enough at what you do that others felt threatened by your success. If you have encountered resistance from insecure coworkers, then it may be a result of you having been especially good at what you do, not the opposite. Do not let condescending remarks hurt your pride or self-image.
Take this tip from Psychic Adelinda, “Growing past fear to handle life with confidence and love is an inner journey. Self-confidence shines from within. You cannot obtain the inner light of self-love from outer sources. In this case the best thing to do is to protect yourself from this negativity and remember not to let what is surrounding you dim the sparkling light that is within you.”
Sometimes the work culture is heavily influenced by individuals whose focus on their grievances has a disproportionate impact on the culture as a whole. When an organization doesn’t step in to actively define and promote a healthy work culture, or when leadership fails to live up to the very standards they promote, a negative culture can naturally fill the void. Nothing feeds a negative workplace culture like hypocrisy.
So what do you do in a culture of negativity, if you don’t want to get sucked into the drama or be seen as a defender of the status quo?
A sure sign of a toxic work environment is one that enables dysfunctional coworkers to engage in sabotaging behaviors without reprimand. Signs of a sabotaging coworker can include backstabbing or blackmailing a colleague, intentionally spreading rumors about others or withholding information that could help them or forming malicious alliances for the purpose of bringing someone down. If you’re facing a colleague who’s out to get you, here are some things you can do:
Nothing ruins a great job faster than a boss with whom you just don't mesh. From management style to personality, countless factors can cause friction between you and your manager. In many cases, you're experiencing an unfortunate trait your boss unleashes on everyone in your workplace. It may not actually be about you. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of insecurity or poor management skills, but often the problems are rooted in narcissism.
Gaslighting, micromanagement, bullying, and creating chaos are surprisingly common behaviors among leaders who make unreasonable demands upon their staff yet seem to have a blind spot regarding their own behaviors. Other signs of toxic bosses include demanding blind agreement, setting impossibly high standards for work they don’t really understand, never being satisfied with the results, expecting employees to read their minds despite giving vague or contradictory assignments, and triangulating communications between several people so that each hears a slightly different version, or is pressured into speaking negatively about a colleague.
Listen carefully to try and understand what your boss is really saying before taking anything personally.
Leaving even a bad job requires planning and preparation. The last thing you want to do is jump from the frying pan to the fire! Sometimes leaving is not practical, and you have to find a way to get through the day to day until circumstances change. Here are some tips on coping when you’re in it for the long haul.
A metaphysical approach to making it through another day can be just as impactful as many practical coping strategies. Psychic Adelinda recommends this ritual of self-protection to help you make it through a toxic work environment:
“Before you start your workday, visualize a white light of protection around you. Think about this white light as a shield of positive energy, where no negative energy can enter, and ask the universe to keep this positive shield around you throughout your day. When you feel hurt by snide comments of others, release that feeling, do not own it. Tell yourself “I am protected from negative energy. This person has no influence over me.” Then go about your day, confident in your inner beauty, conquering the insecurities around you warm in the knowledge that the universe sees and values the amazing person that you are!
If any one of these toxic workplace factors is present in your organization, you may be carrying the stress of it into other parts of your life. If multiple factors are present, the toll on your mental health and physical health can be significant. Before reaching the point of a mental breakdown or physical pain--take advantage of your vacation time or sick days to allow yourself to recuperate. Feeling to overwhelmed with work responsibilities to take time off? Try these tips:
When you focus on the change you want to see in others, you give away your power. When you focus on being the change you want to see, you take back control and operate from a place of choice rather than victimhood. Psychic Antares shares this story to illustrate how an outward focus on others can sabotage your best efforts managing a toxic work situation.
“Let’s say you do all the right things. You get up in the morning do some stretches, get a little exercise, have a wholesome breakfast, and say some affirmations. You are feeling pretty good, right?
It’s Gonna Be a Great Day!
Now you are on your way to work. Your favorite song is on, and you’re rocking out. Everything is going smoothly. Traffic is cruising along and you seem to get every green light possible. Now you are really feeling awesome. You feel like today is going to be almost supernatural you feel so good. Then you go into work radiating happiness, unlimited possibility, with a smile beaming on your face.
It's Gonna Be a Good Day!
The first co-worker you run into appears to be down. You want everyone to be on cloud nine with you. You try and cheer up your co-worker with a smile, warm greeting, and a compliment. They return your smile with a sneer and your compliment with a complaint. You feel a little of your sunny disposition start to cloud over. You try to shake it off and move on with your day.
Now you are hard at work just killing it! Your work is effortless. You are in the flow. A co-worker notices how good of a mood you are in, and how well things are going for you. They decide to come over for a little visit as they are avoiding their own work. You notice a figure looming over you, with nasty look on their face. You look up smiling and ask them how they are doing. They just unload on you, “Why are you so happy? We are at work you know? The boss must have given you all the easy work I see. It must be nice to be so oblivious.” Then your co-worker skulks away.
It's Gonna Be an OK Day.
This incident really hits you like a ton of bricks, but as some time goes by you manage to shake it off again. You realize they are trying to make you feel as miserable as they feel, and you just aren’t down for that. Even still you feel your energy has dropped again and now you are feeling a bit vulnerable. You eventually get back into the flow again. Then your boss comes by.
Well, There’s Always Tomorrow…
They blame you for not completing something that was not your responsibility. They notice your good mood and mistake it for something else. They tell you, “You really need to get it together. You need to take things more seriously. This is work not play time.” Your boss rolls their eyes and walks off without noticing how much work you have finished, or even giving you a chance to speak at all. Your mood and energy plummets. By the time you get back home from work, you are in a terrible mood. You feel like something subhuman. Then you try and pick yourself up again for the next day.
Free to Be You!
What if it was possible to go through that day without ever missing a beat? What if you could keep your amazing, uplifted state of being all day no matter who came at you with what attitude. People will try different ways to pull you down because they either feel threatened by your awesome state of being or they are jealous and feel they cannot have what you have.
One of the most common manipulations people will use is to try and make you less by thinking less of you. I believe the most important and freeing step to remaining positive that you can make is not to care how others perceive you. If you don’t care how others perceive you then you do not give their opinion of you any power over you. They can’t classify you and put you in a box. You are simply free to be you without their interference.
It’s Nothing Personal
The next thing is to not take other people’s thoughts, feelings, words, or actions personally. People will try and project on to you how they perceive reality to be. It’s the rules they have accepted, and they feel it’s the rules everyone should have to live by. If someone sees you being happy and fulfilled in place that they have concluded should not be allowed or is not possible for them, it makes them angry. It makes them feel cheated, left out, or inadequate in some way.
The sensible thing for these people to do would be to ask you how you manage to accomplish positivity amidst adversity. Given enough time they will, but first they have to overcome all the excuses they have made to be a victim and to behave irresponsibly.
You can’t change anyone. They must want to make the change in themselves.”
You might be surprised at how easily you can achieve more at work despite the dysfunction if you simply put your mind to it - a positive mind, of course. While you might not feel especially optimistic, putting a smile on your face and improving your attitude can do wonders for your ability to cope.
It’s tough to keep your head up if you're constantly surrounded by negative people. Nevertheless, you have to be one of them. Instead of taking the "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em" approach, think of ways that you can improve the atmosphere for everyone by being more positive.
Try to end your conversations with a smile as well to avoid any hard feelings and let the other person know you're still open to conversation. Even though some people might become irritated with your cheery, upbeat attitude, showing it can reduce the tension in the air and make your workplace a better space.
Psychic Arabella provides these suggestions for raising your personal vibration at work, regardless of the level of toxicity or dysfunction you encounter.
A toxic work environment is just one of several factors to consider when deciding if it’s time to quit your job. As difficult as these situations may be, there may be a lesson you are meant to learn by digging deeper into which factors are pushing your buttons and finding healthy ways to cope. Speaking with a career psychic can reveal these messages from the universe so that you aren’t forced to face them again in your next job.
That said, the decision to leave your job is personal and no one should have to endure a toxic work environment that is causing stress and burnout. Maybe you’ve been doing your best to cope with your work situation and have had some success in setting boundaries around the negativity. You don’t need to settle for just surviving when you could be thriving. Most people don’t stay in the same job their entire life, so take a look at these four additional signs that it’s time to move on.
No job that makes you unhappy is worth your time. Work doesn’t have to be fun, but it shouldn’t make you so unhappy that it affects your mood even when you’re not there. If you’re facing a toxic work environment, a bad boss or dysfunctional colleagues, know that you always have choices. If you’re not sure where to turn, an online psychic can help you look at the current situation and guide you towards more positive future possibilities.Speak to a Career Psychic