4 Reviews
Vesper, I try my best to be calm, open and compassionate to everyone I encounter. You telling me to “wake up” and explaining how the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows doesn’t help. Also, be the change you want to see in the world, that’s what I’m trying to do. I’m not claiming perfection, but i do my best to approach conversations and conflict in a calm, open and compassionate manner. Is that robotic and masculine? Is it feminine to fly off the handle and embrace and embody the varied emotions that exist? Or is that just emotional immaturity/immaturity? You’re right that I am very cognitive. Why do you think that is? It developed in order to protect an incredibly sensitive soul. You coming at me aggressively does not help anything. It doesn’t help me understand cognitively nor does it help the sensitive human soul that craves compassion and logical understanding. I come to you asking for help in understanding both my POI and myself. I am open and receptive to what you point out about my own projections and wounds- it’s what I’m here to learn- but getting frustrated at me doesn’t help me learn. All of our issues come from wounds anyway, why do you have to take such a aggressive tone? It doesn’t help heal the wounds nor does it create a safe space to open and relax into. It makes the conversation emotional instead of tackling the actual issue at hand. I am very open to feedback when it’s presented in a logical, loving way. You’re right, i do only want to hear it the way i want to hear it… i expect people to have done enough work to regulate their frustration, their anger, their emotions, so they can come at me logically and compassionately. I would have preferred to have sent this message privately, but a review is the only way I have to submit my feedback to you. I think you have great talent but we’re not really getting anywhere when I’m approached with frustration for not “getting it” when i don’t even know what “it” is.
Vesper, thank you so much for the reading a couple days ago. I was in an overwhelmed state - it was literally relationship ptsd coming up and i couldn’t assess anything i was such in a reactive, trauma state. You not only answered my questions but you gave me the most wonderful smack down. Haha. :) The truth I needed to hear about where I’m at and what i need to look at within. I wish it was easier to heal this on my own… i swear i am trying. When the past hits, i lose my connection to myself and run to you like a panicked child. You felt that and called me out on it. Thank you. I wish healing was easier… this is a pain body issue and not an intellectual one so I’m not entirely sure how to do it. But I’m trying. And i am so appreciative of your guidance, patience, soft love and hard love when i need it. Thank you.
