How Do You Meditate?
Here are some simple tips on how to improve your meditation practices. Try these tips and as you practice meditating, you will find what works best for you.
Create a special space for you to practice meditation.
Meditation is a tool you can practice daily to help to bring about positive changes in your life. Meditation can help you combat stress, feel happier, experience more peace, and be more present. When you start meditating, you will learn just how active the mind is and that it takes practice to quiet the mind. Be easy on yourself and recognize that practicing meditation takes time to learn. Be patient with yourself and in time you will find that meditation will bring you clarity and a greater sense of peace.
Pay attention to your breathing to settle into meditation. There is no need to regulate your breathing; just focus on it and let it happen naturally. If you find you are experiencing rapid thoughts or strong emotions while meditating, let the thoughts and feelings flow and continue to focus on your breathing. Acknowledge their presence and then allow them to leave, while you keep your attention on your breathing and learn to stay present.
Meditate with a Purpose.
Meditation is about focusing all of your attention on a single purpose. Focusing on your breathing is a great place to start, but to stick to meditating in the long-term, recognize that focusing your attention on a single point is hard work. Engage in your meditation with a purpose, and notice you may experience frustration, but when you do, just breathe, let it go, and continue to focus purposefully! Connecting with a spiritual counselor or intuitive Advisor is another great way to find a purpose for you to focus on.
There are no rules when it comes to meditating. Find what best works for you by experimenting with different approaches. Try sitting, lying down, keeping your eyes open, keeping them closed, sitting with your legs crossed or sitting with them under you. Meditate in whatever way you feel most comfortable.
Create Your Space.
Create a special place to sit when you practice meditation. Follow the principles of feng shui when designing your space. According to feng shui, your home mirrors what is happening inside of you. Create a space that allows the energy to flow freely and is an inviting space for you to focus on your daily meditation and relax.
Most importantly, it's important to enjoy meditation. Start sitting for a short, manageable amount of time, such as five or ten minutes, and slowly work your way up to sitting for longer periods of time. It might help to set aside a time each day for meditation. Be kind to yourself, know that meditation takes time, and allow yourself to smile.
Meditation can help you calm your soul and ease your mind. Follow these tips to improve your meditation practice and find more happiness along the way. With a little practice, you will find that you're well on your way to achieving that inner peace.
How to Meditate With a Partner
Meditation doesn't have to be a solitary practice. Inviting your partner to meditate with you can have many benefits, including a more connected relationship. Here, you'll find some of the benefits you'll enjoy when meditating with your partner.
More Time to Connect
Taking the time to meditate as a couple on a daily basis—if even for as short as ten minutes—gives the two of you more time together by giving you both the opportunity to connect mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.
Touching brings two people closer together than any other form of communication, as it even allows for emotional intimacy. It is through that touching that you move past the solo nature of meditation and instead create an awareness of each other. Meditating as a couple promotes touch and can build and keep intimacy in your relationship consistent.
Meditation calms the limbic system by the predictable pattern of in-and-out breathing. This mutual focus on calm and stability can carry over into thoughtful dialogues and help couples avoid escalated emotions of fear and anger during high stress moments. Focusing deeply on your partner during meditation can essentially carry over and become a form of regular reciprocal relational practice in all aspects of your relationship.
Meditation holds many benefits for individuals, including increased empathy and heightened brain activity. Relational meditation can allow couples to feel more vulnerable in each other's presence, leading to more open communication, increased honesty, and a less frantic approach to life for couples who meditate.
Work, money, and health are all distractions in our personal lives that can be stressful for us to deal with. They are also things that we can remove from our minds with proper meditation. In the same way those issues can be obstacles in our personal lives, they can also be major obstacles in our relationships. Being able to do so creates stress-free clarity and calm for us individually and as a couple.
Individual and Relationship Growth
According to neuroscience expert Dan Siegel, meditation holds a slew of benefits referred to as the "Magic Nine:" attuned communication, emotional balance, fear modulation, response flexibility, insight, empathy, body regulation, moral judgment, and intuition. These personal improvements offer clear benefits to oneself but also to relationship health when both partners are practicing meditation.
When meditating with your partner, find a quiet place where you can meditate together without interruption. Wear comfortable clothing, sit facing one another, look into one another's eyes, focus on one another, breathe together, and touch. Start with short increments, such as five minutes, and increase your meditation time together as you continue your daily practice to reap the long-term benefits of meditating together.
Follow these steps to advance your own self-improvement and clarity through meditation. Take them to the next level to create a deeper and lasting bond with your partner.
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