Change is a good thing and once we learn to deal with it, we can embrace it!
“Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure. But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer.”~Shunryu Suzuki
I remember years ago watching a video of a seminar on stress, and how change is the biggest stressor in our lives. In other words change causes worry and leads to stress. His method of accepting change was to change the small things in life, such as moving your toothbrush after you brush your teeth, or throwing your bath towel in the floor after using it, instead of putting it up. If you can accept the small changes that stress you out, then it will be easier to accept the bigger changes you can’t help.
I completely agree with this concept! So, here's a step-by-step guide:
Step 1: If you are a neat freak, start with something small. Start with one small object at a time. You don’t want to stress yourself too much! Try throwing your clothes on the floor instead of a hamper, or don’t put your toilet paper on the holder etc… change any little thing that would bother you normally. And if you aren’t a neat freak, do the opposite, take the time to clean up that mess! This seems like an easy task, but trust me, when you are used to doing things a certain way, it can drive you nuts!
Step 2: “Don’t sweat the small stuff and forget about it!” Anytime you feel yourself thinking about that small task you changed, or can’t find the toothbrush you moved, rather than be upset. Just accept it for what it is and change something else. Keep doing this until you find you are happy with accepting these changes.
Step3: Free your mind and find more important tasks you want to accomplish. Create time for new positive changes such as mediation, reading a book, watching a movie, etc…
Now, when change comes your way, if it’s not what you wanted, just remember, you didn’t want to move your toothbrush or clean up that mess either. The whole point is to change your way of thinking. I was always told to “expect nothing and accept everything.” Then find a “silver lining”. When you free your mind of change as a stressor, you can free yourself of unnecessary suffering.
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