We have all used the phrase. We have all felt the disappointment when trying to talk to someone about something they just don't quite get.
We use a lot of our time coming up with the things we want to say. We go over the sentences over and over again in our mind making sure that everything is precise and honest. We live in anxiety until we finally build up the courage to speak to the person.
We say our carefully constructed words with kindness and empathy… We feel our hearts racing, hands shaking and egos trying to pull us back from speaking our truth.
After it's done, after the words are spoken, we expect a light bulb go off. A sign. Anything to let us know that our words were heard, our feelings are justified, and our hurt is something that can be healed.
And yet... we get no such sign.
You see in the eyes of the person you approached that not one ounce of your truth was processed.
There is not one sign that indicates the person feels remorse, or sorrow, or guilt, or understanding.
There is nothing there to work with.
You end of up feeling defeated and confused. You wonder why you wasted so much of your time and effort into constructing your approach.
You start to question yourself.
STOP RIGHT THERE.
Here is a hard truth you need to hear.
Some people will never get it.
When we finally comprehend this hard truth, we can finally be free.
It's not your fault.
Don't let someone’s lack of consciousness effect yours.
Be the bigger person.