Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Have you ever heard comments such as: "My wife just filed for divorce and I had no idea she was unhappy." or "I got fired today; I didn't know my boss was unhappy with me" or even "he tried to hit me; I never saw it coming." People making statements like this are not paying attention to body language which basically just means observing the world and the other people in it effectively.
Freeze, Flight or Fight
Sometimes people will elect the flight response and simply try to flee from confrontational conversations. You can identify the flight response often before the person even becomes aware of it themselves. You may see a person distance themselves from you or literally turn away and face the wall or a door. The eyes will begin to seek out means of escape such as a door. Blocking behaviors may also be observed such a rubbing the eyes to literally block sight or placing the hands over the face.
It’s fairly easy to see when a person is preparing for the fight response as well. One form of modern aggression is the argument. You literally see people take a stand when they feel strongly about something by placing their feet firmly on the ground, usually at a distance from one another. The chest may be puffed out. The personal space of others may be invaded as well. Remember that when a person verbally communicates emotional arousal, that person's ability to think effectively may be compromised As hard as it may be to do, the best action at this point is generally withdrawal or a 'time out' until control over emotions is regained.
It’s best to have confrontational discussions when both people are in control of emotions and thus are more able to think clearly.
Never think that someone isn't telling you how they feel. They are. They can't prevent it.
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