Have you ever faced serious workplace conflict? Has it led to anxiety and made you dread your job? Are you dealing with this nightmare right now?
You are not alone.
One shocking study found that…
- As many as 85% of employers admit to experiencing conflict on the job.
- US employees spend 2.8 hours weekly in conflict in a work environment.
- Wasted hours cost employers $359 billion in paid employee time.
One statistic that may not seem so bad, but I find very interesting is that 25% of people say that avoiding conflict has led to absence from work and even real illness for the people involved. This begs the question...
Can you avoid the negative consequences of conflict at work?
The short answer is, yes. There are ways to survive a professional dispute. We can control behaviors and outcomes by being self-reflective, intuitive and empathic. More on this in a moment.
What kind of fighter are you?
Mostly, when it comes to fighting with others, there are three kinds of people.
- Fired Up Fighter ‒ The first type is someone who gets fired up by disagreements in a positive, adrenaline pumping way. This person doesn’t shy away from hostility. This person might be the instigator, the one who pushes all the right buttons in their opponent to force reaction. This person doesn’t fear a good fight. This person is confident about conflict and usually feels stronger and proud after an argument.
- Passive Participant ‒ The second type is someone that avoids conflict at all costs. This person is uncomfortable as soon as any signs of discord arise. This person often tries to smooth things over, even when the level of frustration is impossible to ignore. Unfortunately, even a person who is willing to ignore insults is likely to reach their breaking point and snap at some point.
- Self Aware Strategist ‒ When you are your best self you see three things clearly: yourself, the situation around you, and the other people involved. This clarity is hard to achieve yourself. Even psychics usually can’t read for themselves. Still, it is this ability to see what’s coming next or what’s truly happening in the present that makes it possible for you to have the superior clarity you need to solve any conflict.
You cannot 100% avoid conflict at work. Many of us worry that, at work, battles lead to bad blood. We expect to lose our job, be hated by others, hate those who have attacked us, and/or become a constant topic of gossip. This expectation leads to self-sabotage because if all conflict is bad, then all conflict must be avoided. Let’s be very clear… avoiding all conflict in life is IMPOSSIBLE.
Ironically, when we muffle a shouting match, the problem continues to exist. We might think we’re saving ourselves from humiliation, anger, or disappointment, when in reality we are delaying inevitable confrontations, some of which will only grow bigger and worse over time.
An example of workplace conflict from pop culture
When Chandler Bing from the 90’s sitcom “FRIENDS” had an uncomfortable situation at work, he spent days on end enduring the uncomfortable smack on his rear by his boss because he thought he might get fired if he said anything about it. When he finally gained the courage to say that he preferred a handshake instead, he was surprised to hear that his boss thought it was a brave thing to do and wound up respecting him because of it. Although at first, bringing up the uncomfortable situation might lead to tension and ‘bad vibes’ it also opens the door to find a possible solution and that’s what’s most important. When dissected from this perspective, conflict actually offers a subtle advantage.
A real-life example of workplace conflict
When we attempt to ignore the elephant in the room, we wind up overcompensating instead of facing real issues head-on. This impulsive or reactive behavior has dangerous potential. A great example would be an employee who, instead of admitting they do not understand how to use the company software, decides to promise to get the work done in half the time. Had the employee chosen to take the conflict route, they’d have saved everyone time and probably managed to hand the work in on time instead of trying to swim in the deep end without any training or experience. The decision they chose wound up being a waste of time and a demerit on their part in the eyes of the current and potential future employers. This is just one of the many disadvantages of avoiding conflict in the workplace.
Types of Workplace Conflict
Some common workplace conflicts are interdependent/task-based conflicts which arise in situations where colleagues must coordinate their tasks so that everyone can successfully get their part done. Leadership conflicts come about because everybody has a different leadership style, and everybody reacts differently to those leadership styles. It could be boldness in one, charisma for the next person and strictness for another.
Other types of workplace conflicts are work style conflicts, personality-based conflicts, discrimination and creative idea conflict. Just as there are different leadership styles, there are different work styles. Some people prefer to work in groups while others do their best work alone. People also have different personalities and we should not expect to like everyone we meet. In the place of conflicting ideas, employees should recognize the ideas of others, voice their own, and then gather the best pieces together for a stunning solution. Discrimination is where workplace conflict gets more serious as it touches on matters to do with gender, religion, sexuality, or ethnic biases among other things.
The Cost and Benefits of Workplace Conflict
Apart from wasting valuable time and energy, leaving conflict unresolved can cause problems to workplace morale, productivity, and company culture. Working in a tense, passive-aggressive environment in constant discomfort is impossible to endure for too long. Overall, this could lead to people not wanting to be at work, a higher staff turnover, more ‘sick’ days, and poor job performances.
When managed in a healthy and productive way, conflict at work can enable a team to work towards their goals. With healthy workplace conflicts, you can expect your team to accomplish its goals in no time. It encourages healthy debate and argument which is good for almost any environment. Also, it improves team culture and allows people to learn more.
Conflict comes from caring. We would not fight at all if we didn’t have a sense of commitment to our work and teams. So why not use friction as an opportunity to resolve issues, stress and anxiety? When people do this effectively, teams can be more committed and productive than ever. Conflict can lead to healthy changes that support the overall goals of the organization and the goals you have in your career.
What is Conflict Resolution?
Conflict resolution in the workplace is important because it does the complete opposite of conflict avoidance; For instance, it helps to increase unity and cooperativeness between team members rather than discomfort, isolation and tension. The first step to conflict resolution for the workplace is to calm down and accept that there is a conflict and the likely discomfort that it will bring. The next move would be to identify the problem and focus on it and not the person on the other end of it. Afterwards, what would follow would be to come up with a plan to deal with the problem by talking with the other person(s) involved before the tension grows into something unbearable. It is important to communicate via active listening. It’s not only important to get together and talk, it’s important to get together and listen. While the dialogue is taking place, it is advisable to try and be as empathetic as possible. Self-reflection is a key factor in the process as well. It is easier to understand a person when you consider things from his/her point of view.
How Can Your Psychic Help with Workplace Conflict?
When you are struggling with conflict, lean on your psychic advisor for help. Psychics with different gifts can help you see what’s coming next in the conflict. This information can help immensely. For example, if you are at risk of losing your job, you can start looking for a new job immediately. If you’re the victim of discrimination or other targeting, you can begin to collect evidence that this is happening. Without this evidence, you couldn’t pursue legal action.
More importantly, in my opinion, clairvoyant psychics can help you see the whole picture more clearly. The reality is that during any conflict, things are changing fast. Free will can reshape a conflict in a second and a prediction-style reading could lead become irrelevant. While clarity about what is currently happening may not always be as satisfying, true clarity allows you to see multiple paths ahead. Instead of investing your energy in one prediction, you can choose to shape the path ahead for yourself.
Self-awareness is the ultimate clarity.
See your motivations and behaviors in a clean light. For example, you could be self-sabotaging your own interests because you are afraid. What if the other person in this situation is actually afraid too? What if this person is open to understanding you but needs clarity themselves? When you see clearly, you can proactively do what is right for you. With a clairvoyant on your side you have your best chance of maintaining control of the situation and minimizing reactions that do not serve your goals.