Growing Relationships
by Psychic Rainbow

14th March, 2010 - Posted by Rainbow x7953closeAuthor: Rainbow x7953 Name: Rainbow x7953
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About: Rainbow joined Psychic Source in the autumn of 2008. A member of the ATA and certified as a professional reader by the TCBA, she has over 20 years experience reading Totems, Spirit Guides, and Past Lives. Rainbow is also the Dean of Faculty for an online metaphysical school, where she writes and teaches classes in Shamanism, Tarot, and Lunar Astrology, amongst other subjects. Rainbow is of Cherokee and English descent and is a constant student in the mysterious schools of life. She has studied with Medicine Elders of the Cherokee and Delaware Nations, and is ordained as a shamanic minister. A published author, recorded singer songwriter, accomplished storyteller, and intuitive artist; she is at her happiest when she is creating something. While living in England she studied complementary and alternative healing disciplines, and is a practitioner of aromatic stone massage, crystal healing, herbal preparation, and meditation as medicine. Rainbow has a flair for recycling by finding new uses for discarded items and is keenly interested in organic gardening and cooking and environmental issues. Her leisure hours are spent feeding a passion for needlework including knitting, beading and working with leather. She lives in the Midwest with her husband and four-legged kids.See Authors Posts (14)

Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Your dreams of wine and roses turned into nightmares of hangovers and thorns. Now what do we do?

The course of love does not always run smoothly, but we can help it get back on track with a few simple exercises.

Always say what you mean. I don’t know how many times I get a call from a client who has told their boyfriend to leave and not come back, and they are wondering when he is going to come back! We cannot go through a relationship saying one thing and meaning another: this just confuses the other party, and eventually they will become so frustrated they will take you up on the one offer you did not mean for them to take seriously, and they will leave.

Learn not to argue back. It is very difficult to argue with someone when they stay calm, collected, and don’t argue back. The other party might be throwing all kinds of venom, accusations and lies at you, but they are doing so to pick a fight. Walk away. Let them get it out of their system, then ask them what they want for supper! Lead by example. Be the changes you want to see in the relationship. You’ll be far more likely to solve problems by teaching each other to discuss things calmly, rather than getting into a heated argument.

Make a conscious effort to be cheerful. Our partners fell in love with us because they were attracted to our smile, our vivaciousness, our ‘bubble.’ Show them that person; not the needy, clingy, “why don’t they call” person into which you are in danger of becoming. Not only will this remind your partner why they fell in love with you and help to endear them to you once again, but it is very difficult to be crabby around someone who is determined to be full of sunshine!

Be the first to forgive. It doesn’t matter who was right, what matters is who is going to be the first person to help rectify the situation back into one of happiness? Bearing a grudge never solved anything. Who cares if the other person tries to bear a grudge; follow the steps above, and that grudge should soon leave town!

Finally, if the situation has broken down so that there is no communication between the two of you, try this little spell…

Take two stones; if you have rose quartz this works great, but two stones from the driveway will do just fine. Place one stone at one end of a book shelf, window sill, or mantle piece, and place the second stone at the other end. Once a day, move each stone slightly closer towards each other. Only move the stones about an eighth of an inch. Every time you move the stone, offer up a positive thought that the space between you might dissipate. You might want to say something like, “Every day, in every way, love will lessen this gap.” Do this at the same time every day (either first thing in the morning or last thing at night is ideal), and as you move the stones, really send out compassion, gratitude, and unconditional love towards the other person.

When we do the inner work on ourselves, it manifests throughout all of our relationships. Following these steps will ensure that you have done everything within your power to heal the rift between you, and heal your heart back into a place of love.

Need deeper insight into your love issues? Talk to Rainbow or  one of our Love Psychics.