In Loving Memory
A touching story of loss and love, by Psychic Cher
20th November, 2009 - Posted by Cher x7345
In Loving Memory of my wonderful son, Marc Elliot: 4/15/72 – 4/3/07. He is an Angel now. I know this! I am NOT looking for Sympathy! I just want you all to know, you’re not alone.
So many times I get calls from so many people trying to heal from losing a loved one. It’s very tough, I know this! It could even be the loss of a loving pet. They are part of our family also. I can relate to all this.
In my opinion, the loss of your child has to be the very worst thing that could ever happen to anyone. I remember always saying, please let me go before my children, when they are grown and settled. I’m sure many of you have thought the same way as I did. But unfortunately, life isn’t always fair as many of us know! I have found a few articles online, so I don’t take complete credit for all of it. I had a hard time writing this; it opens unhealed wounds that will never go away. But I wanted you to know you are not alone and I wish all your pain and hurt goes away. When we lose a loved one, relationship, pet, or sense of self, the emptiness we feel can be overwhelming. There are many ways to weave the threads of loss into a blessing that gives you inner strength you may not know you have.
Ok I have bored you enough 
Here are a few things I wanted to write about.
“Love knows not its depth until the hour of separation.”
The grieving process may involve a variety of stages. Depending on the degree of loss endured, an individual may experience shock, denial, bargaining, anger, or guilt. All forms of loss can be exposed to these stages in the event of losing a loved one through death or personally experiencing near death.
Shock – An unexpected experience of death that jars the mind or emotions or a reality of death setting in.
Denial – An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by a refusal to accept painful realities, thoughts, or feelings connected to death.
Anger – A strong emotion of displeasure or hostility oriented toward the grievance of loss.
Guilt – Remorse caused by feeling responsible in some way for the death of your loved one or self-reproach for supposed inadequacy or wrongdoing.
There are many reasons to cope with your grief and confront unresolved issues that you may have regarding the loss of someone special. It can affect your life on so many different levels, from your physical health, mental well-being, your ability to cope with life’s responsibilities, to your ability to maintain healthy relationships with others.
So often when you have lost a loved one, it seems impossible to keep spiritual principles intact, even if you felt you had a firm grip on them before your loved one passed on. Some may experience feelings of anger, depression, guilt, sadness, regret, among other individual feelings based on their own unique sense of loss. Some of your feelings may be based on wondering if you did enough (or too much in some cases), if they are doing OK, and what really happened to them when they passed on. Do they see you now? Do they know how much you love them; How much you miss them? Were they in pain? The questions seem endless. You want to have faith, so you tell yourself that what you think you have believed all of your life is true, that they “live on” in heaven or some similar “good” place, and are still watching over you. But still you doubt, you want to KNOW.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories a lane,
I’d walk right up to Heaven
And bring you home again.
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stella
November 21st, 2009 at 6:20 PM
Cher and All, with all my spirituality, faith in God and my gut, I KNOW my Angel (5/3/76 – 7/15/07)is in Heaven because God had happier times in store for Angel as she was born physically and mentally disabled!! I know she is an Angel among the Angels because she only knew love!!
Thanks for sharing your memories with us — I feel you find peace and answers now, my Dear!
Stella 7343
stella
November 21st, 2009 at 11:44 PM
Cher, putting all your thoughts and feelings in writing releases all the pent-up emotions and will let the healing begin. I wrote a poem to my little one. tied it to a balloon and sent it to Her. I know she reached out and “snached” the balloon! My son and I were watching the balloon (windy day) circle higher and higher and when it appeared to still be the size of a hockey ball, the balloon literally disappeared out of the sky. We ran to see if the balloon had gone to the other side of the house and it hadn’t. This was my sign from above that all is always well in Heaven and with my special “Angel”!!
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