I have a friend, Louise, whose boyfriend plays in a band. When I used to gig, Louise’s boyfriend was often at the same venue. And he’d have his little groupies, and inevitably go home with one of them.

We were always telling her. We were always advising her to dump him; she ‘had’ to know what he was doing! And her response was always the same. She loved him. She loved him enough that if he needed to go off with someone else on a Saturday night, that was okay. She had him the other 6 nights of the week.

Now, there is no way on God’s green earth I could have done that!! But that was ‘her’ line, that was ‘her’ place on the fence (Lord help him if he didn’t come home on Sunday — she’d pull off his head and use it for a football!). We all have our own place on the fence. Some people might think that even talking to an old flame counts as ‘cheating’, while others might have a very open relationship, like Louise.

With computers being used in most homes now, and with so many different things being easily accessible on them from meeting up with old flames to viewing graphic movies and images, it is important for a relationship’s health that both parties agree where their lines are, and to have the integrity to stay within those boundaries.