Internet Infidelity
The Internet Opens Doors, but may let in more than you bargained for.

24th September, 2009 - Posted by Maxine x7791closeAuthor: Maxine x7791 Name: Maxine x7791
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About: Hello – I am Maxine a psychic and writer. My passion for the spiritual arts and writing serve me well in this venue. Writing has always been an intriguing aspect of my life, the Internet gave me a new and exciting way in which to communicate with others all over the world. In 2001 I founded e-groups, “Sangha for Independents” also “Buddhist Inmate Sangha” (sangha means community) these groups provide a community for those who practice independently. We support the practice by sending books and writing letters to prisoners who wish to know about Buddhism or are Buddhist and have no one to share the practice with. Writing to others about life experiences is a joy bringing me closer to my spiritual center. Business and the arts took center stage in my younger life. My father being the founder of Snapple gave me strong roots in the business world. I became a make-up artist and hairstylist with a career spanning twenty years both in New York and California. This gave me a great education in that i got to talk to many different people everyday in-depth reinforcing my psychic knowledge base. I lived on both coasts and for seventeen years shared ownership of a kennel allowing me to make deep connections with animals. Back east once again I am enjoying working with Psychic Source – writing for me is like eating, without it I would starve.See Authors Posts (27)

The passion that comes to the keyboard is an incredible experience, one which I have had when I first got on the internet. Was it cheating, to be married and chat with guys late at night? I did not think so! Yet, in a short two week period, I had my heart broken and had to piece together a failing marriage. When I asked my husband for a kiss he told me, and I quote, “kiss the computer.” Cause and Effect – my mantra!

The calls I receive about love have changed since the internet has been connecting more and more people. Being able to find a lost love is very popular right now and many who were high school sweethearts that parted ways and married someone else are now divorced…leaving them broken (both men and women). Doing searches on the web have brought old flames back a burning.

This brings me to another topic that has many people steaming -  many people have access to their partners’ passwords to both phones and computers.  It is amazing what a country of private eyes we are and boy do we like to snoop…and it can become an addiction. This is not new, just different. It was so much easier just going through your man/woman’s wallet/purse – now, if you have their password you are in like Flynn to your loved ones’ private life. Is this healthy? Do you find it helps to know?  I think in the long run it does as secrets ruin trust.  But here we also are running the risk of floating down the river of denial or at least dealing with denial. I have to say I have a good pro and con list to snooping and for me the bottom line is that I want to know that my man is playing it safe to keep our household healthy. And this runs a gambit of life’s realms.

Falling in love with an old or new love over the internet is not as hard as it might seem. It is true that you can pick up vibrations from the words on the screen and pictures. Perhaps the people who are reconnecting have it easier because they know the person pre-internet.  I have discovered that many like to play mind games and in the end this love in cyber-space is not enough and someone always wants more. Bigger, faster, better only comes in person, bringing the online relationship to an end.

If you are cheating online and it is so hot and heavy, I wonder how hard or easy it is to keep a lid on the passion. After hours chatting in IM what do you do? Go to bed??? Talk to your partner? Call a Psychic?

2 Comments

Rainbow x7953

October 8th, 2009 at 11:07 AM    

I think this raises the question about what compromises ‘cheating’. We all have different ideas as to where that line is.

I have a friend, Louise, whose boyfriend plays in a band. When I used to gig, Louise’s boyfriend was often at the same venue. And he’d have his little groupies, and inevitably go home with one of them.

We were always telling her. We were always advising her to dump him; she ‘had’ to know what he was doing! And her response was always the same. She loved him. She loved him enough that if he needed to go off with someone else on a Saturday night, that was okay. She had him the other 6 nights of the week.

Now, there is no way on God’s green earth I could have done that!! But that was ‘her’ line, that was ‘her’ place on the fence (Lord help him if he didn’t come home on Sunday — she’d pull off his head and use it for a football!). We all have our own place on the fence. Some people might think that even talking to an old flame counts as ‘cheating’, while others might have a very open relationship, like Louise.

With computers being used in most homes now, and with so many different things being easily accessible on them from meeting up with old flames to viewing graphic movies and images, it is important for a relationship’s health that both parties agree where their lines are, and to have the integrity to stay within those boundaries.

Maxine x7791

October 9th, 2009 at 8:27 AM    

rainbow said – have the integrity to stay within those boundaries.
i say standing up and cheering for rainbow… yes boundaries and integrity make for good relationships and safe relationships as well.

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