Sometimes it's better to just say no.
There are many wonderful reasons to get married, such as being in love, having the same goals, and feeling complete in each other's company, but there are also excellent reasons not to get married. That's not to say you never should, but if you recognize your situation in any of these scenarios, you should put the brakes on the bridal train for at least a while.
When You Barely Know Each Other
Only you can define how well you know someone else, and it doesn't always have anything to do with the length of time you've known someone either. Maybe you've only been engaged for six months, but you know each other very well. Then again, if you don't really know the person you're with after being together for two years, marriage isn't necessarily in the cards.
The point is, you have to know your partner. It's okay if there are still some surprises waiting, but you should know your potential partner's core values, hopes, dreams, and fears. A love tarot reading can put your fears at ease—or reinforce the idea that maybe it's not the right time for wedding bells.
When You're Both Broke
No, vast wealth and riches aren't must-haves for getting married; however, if you're both broke, how are you going to live? By all means get engaged, but don't tie the knot until you've put back some savings to start your life together. Do this even if you want a simple ceremony with a justice of the peace. Merging your lives is still expensive, and you'll definitely be grateful for the extra cash.
When You're Going in Different Directions
Sometimes you love someone but you just aren't compatible. Right now the fact that you're polar opposites is exciting and sexy, but will you still feel that way down the line, once you're officially married? Divorce is much harder and more complicated than a breakup. If your core values, beliefs, and goals are completely different, it's better to let go than risk a divorce later.
When It's for the Wrong Reasons
Getting married just because you're pregnant, one of you has to move, someone needs a green card, money, or companionship aren't the right reasons. Every relationship is different, of course, but if you're looking for a long-lasting, authentic partnership, don't let anything force or goad you into it.
When It Just Doesn't Feel Right
You're crazy in love, you've been together forever, and you're already hip-deep in planning the wedding … but it just doesn't feel right. You have to trust your instincts, especially when it involves your romantic life. Don't go through with something just because you think you must. Sit down with your love psychic and have an earnest talk. You need to work through those feelings before walking down the aisle or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
Marriage isn't for everyone, and there's no set schedule for getting married. At the end of the day, you need to do what's best for you.
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